Women corner

How a family?-Man and woman:

2012-02-11T14:03:00.000+06:00

That's how the world is that our likes and dislikes are determined by the biological compatibility. To explain this simply: every body is built on a five-element scheme of interaction of organs and systems and of itself is not balanced - there's always some kind of overload. So, if two organisms, each of which is on the calculation load of pathogenic (health problems), one sympathetic to each other, together we obtain the norm, and the overall rate of all organs and systems. That is, if two individuals love themselves sick, then together they are mutually offset some flaws, and their children are perfectly healthy. It can be seen as one of the wonders of life together. So, male and female form a pair of the scheme of Yin-Yang - black and white, but the kids do not form pairs, because they are "colored" - there is a balance scheme Red-Blue-Green. The literal conclusion is simple: if one child in the family, he is not compensated - not enough of the other two, so it will compensate for the biological father and mother. Hence, the load and complexity in education.

The child is worried, requires greater attention, and it is actually very simple - it is biologically decompensate. The second child is the situation improves - have someone to work out, his attention will be focused mainly on the brother (sister). But this leads to the fact that in families where two children, between children formed a difficult relationship: a little older, "catchy," a senior junior "rides." This kind of interaction is formed at a subconscious level and results in permanent showdown. In this case, children also need attention from their parents, but now find out about their relationship. The third child brings the full balance in the family, and children are engaged in "with themselves" - they have a strong team, in which the constant vigilance of the parents are not so reserved. Of course, they also need love and attention, but they no longer need to "biological recharge." A further increase in the number of children does not change the situation fundamentally, the situation becomes more balanced, but that effect - the transition to stability - no longer exists, because it is made. With the formation of biological family is another point which is often necessary to investigate - a system of biological interactions. We'll consider the situation where mom and dad make up - give the total biological norm, but it does not always happen. If mom and dad do worse, while it is always prone to certain diseases, the first child is trying to normalize the situation. Typically, this problem is solved already the first child, in this case there is a biological compensation "for three" - mom, dad, baby. And psychologically, it will be expressed in the fact that the child is actively involved in the relationship between the father and mother, and the appearance of the Pope with his mother tension (by the way, the simplest biological consequence of decomposition - the emergence of tensions in personal relationships without any reason), he will try to somehow resolve these relationships, as a kind of negotiator, and more and more.
First, it is very load function, because a child needs its own children's private life , and not the ceaseless care of my father and mother. By the way, this situation may occur very early, just to express it differently: in the three years the child may moan, throw a tantrum to protest the pope abnormal personal relationship with his mother. And there are times when it is already five years the child begins to consciously support one of their parents. This biological binding becomes binding psychological, which is the usual result is that in the future, when the child grows up, he will be very difficult to start a personal life, because emotionally it is very actively associated with his father or mother. This situation often occurs in the spouses, when, rather than engage in personal life, to build personal plans, they are actively addressing the problems of their own parents, which easily leads to the gradual disintegration of the family , because they have a family education is not new, but "creative team "to address the problems of parents. Because this situation occurs quite often, it has three children can help to stabilize it, forming a stable psychological team - the core of family life.

Opening a secret-What does a woman want?

2012-02-10T14:01:00.000+06:00

This age-old question asked by men in an attempt to unravel the mystery woman . But is it so difficult for us to understand? We do not want anything special! The main thing is that he was always there. To often hugged, kissed and said fine compliments, admired by our intellect, beauty and uniqueness. Divined our desire , and gave exactly what we want. But it was not so boring and not all the time loomed before my eyes, giving us - women - miss the opportunity! So that was not motom and skinflint. Nothing is hidden, and shared his thoughts. It was puzzling, did not say too much and knew how to keep secrets. In the morning serve hot coffee and croissants in bed. Do not wake too early! It is well earned, and holidays and weekends spent with my family.

To know how to joke, played sports and had no bad habits. Loved suits, ties and exquisite flavors. It was reasonable, calm and sane. Masculinity admired, was impetuous and a bit of an adventurer. Went on a bike and groin skin worn leather jackets, tobacco, gasoline and danger. He was fearless and able to protect.
What, you do not understand what a woman wants ? But it's so easy!
So as not to seem clever, but was it! Always regarded as a feminine point of view and was able to make independent decisions. It was romantic, gentle, refined, sensual and not shy about crying. So that was not a weakling and sissy. With his fist on the table could call to order. So that the bed was a sensitive but assertive. So that he could shovel woman in his arms, pressed against the wall and pull her a kiss by force! Was a constant in tastes and preferences, but sought a new and unknown. He liked to take risks and win. He was cautious and prudent. He sought to conquer new heights and appreciated what he has. He knew how to draw and strike while the iron composing poems and repair faucets, play the violin and bend horseshoes, present status and steal a horse, grow a flower from seed, and shoot a wild boar on a hunt, dig up the garden and cut a path in the jungle. To most of all appreciate the freedom and could not live without my family.
Again, confused ? I'll try to explain again.
So that he loved animals, did not expect the soul to the children, care for the elderly. I could listen carefully, was interested in how our day went. He was meticulous, but was able to see the charm in the chaos. Insightful, but not curious. Romantic and eccentric, but it did not seem funny. Shake hands, straightened the chair and respected our emancipation. To know how to be assertive but not intrusive. He was careful driver, an exemplary citizen. Seeing the injustice, not silent. Do not meddle in other people's work and thought more of that which is nearby. To know how to forgive and patient was an angel, but he could descend into hell, and shake the soul from the devil! To all the women liked him , but looked only at one. Shave in the morning and evening, he was preparing his breakfast and had a nice flair of fashion. So that did not make a cult out of their clothes and drove to the restaurant. And as he goes stubble!

Who am I - a boy or a girl ?

2012-02-09T14:01:00.000+06:00

The answers we get in very early childhood, and later in life behave accordingly received the answer, regardless of the sex to which we relate to reality. The fact that sexual self-esteem of the child is formed properly only if the parents will accept his sexual identity. It is only from the parents the child learns about how the world around us and what he is . Any identification - is a "two-sided correlation," ie, the child identifies himself with his own sex, while taking the knowledge of the opposite sex. Many people at the mention of the family are just a small group of people with similar or interchangeable functions, oblivious to the fact that family members did not create a genderless ageless. They are - adults, men and women who have relationships with young men and women. Our entire world consists of men and women, and the role corresponding to one or the other sex, - more important for us from a psychological point of view, the social roles that have been a secondary meaning, again, against the background of their primary sexual values.

Therefore, the child needs to develop an example of both models - male and female . If for some reason there is no father in the family, the child quickly finds a vehicle of this image - grandfather, uncle, neighbor, caretaker at the kindergarten - all of the available older men. At the same time he will be able to use the model of male behavior when it receives from the mother reported that the men - worthy of being. If the mother gives him to understand that men are unworthy, and that she did not like it when he behaves this way, it will use the corresponding models in secret or in a distorted form. Why mother-child must get the approval of a particular model, you ask? Because the mother is a child (regardless of gender) the priority figure, the man who meets the basic needs of the child - food, warm, safe in contact. If parents are not able to recognize the sexuality of each other, they will not be able to recognize and sexuality of their child. In this case the explicit or implicit neglect of parents to each other leads to the fact that they can not show the child an example of functional, satisfactory relationships, men and women, because it is their relationship to each other are a role model for children and absorbed intuitively and for life. Even worse the situation becomes, if the parents are in conflict with each other, because this conflict is inevitable, and transferred to the child: the child they will send mixed signals on how it should be and what he should do. They will drag each child on their side in this conflict, forcing him to choose between his parents when one parent recognizes it, and the second - denies that it is extremely painful for the child. If any one of these tactics implemented by parents, the child gets very complicated experience, which greatly lowers self-esteem. In general, the nature of the interaction in the family of a child may be explained by responses to questions asked by myself and the world around them, for example, the little boy:
- As a father (big man) goes with her mother (great woman)?
- As a father treats me (little man)?
- As a father tells me to treat your mother?
- As a mother treats her father?
- As a mother (most women) goes with me (little man)?
- As a mother tells me to contact my father?
In each of these questions is hidden a number of contradictions with which the child can experience. And considering that in most cases the child has two parents, then doubled and the number of contradictions, because the information that comes from the mother, may be contrary to that which comes from the father. At the same time that he can see the relationship between the parents may disagree with what feelings and emotions they experience. Thus, if the child can not see the open quarrel, however, the behavior of parents would show him that they were frustrated and angry at each other.
Many of these conflicting emotions can and should get an explanation, because the child can ask the corresponding question aloud. Thus, the child may learn that in every situation there are several aspects, and that similar events do not always linked. Ignoring the needs of parents of the child in understanding what is happening is a great internal conflicts. In a dysfunctional family with children the impression that they should not ask questions because this can lead to conflict between husband and wife, touching painful for them.
If a child is left alone with unresolved contradictions, he tries to find an answer on their own, often coming to incomplete or incorrect conclusions, according to which he builds his life in the future.
For example, he may decide that if a man and woman "offended" that other "offended" if a "weak", the other "strong" if a "good", the other necessarily "bad", etc . etc. Such simplified "black and white" findings complicate the adoption of behavior patterns of men and women and prevent the development of self-esteem.
In this case the sexual self-esteem boys will suffer if the marital relationship between the father is insulted, despised. The girl will have problems with sexual self-esteem, if this position in the marital relationship is the mother.
This works the mechanisms that children tend to identify themselves with the parent of the same sex (set the similarity of their genitals to one of the parents and the differences - with the other), they experience anxiety when the parent of the same gender offends or another offended them. However, of these two options for the child to be hurt worse, it gives rise to the thought: "This could happen to me!"

How to push a man to marry?

2012-02-08T13:59:00.000+06:00

Any girl dreams of her childhood, marriage, contemplating every detail wedding gown and dreams about how in love with the groom looked to be waiting for her at the altar ... but what if your man is pale and changed the subject at every mention of the word "wedding"?
Those girls and women who suffer the question: "What do I do with it, we have so much time we meet, but it does not make me a proposal!" Is, above all, think about whether you want to connect their lives with this man. Quite often, the girls approach the issue of choosing a partner from this point of view: "I have time to get married", "we meet for so long, uncomfortable in front of parents," or corny, "it happened", and do not take into account the fact that marriage - this is a very important step.
In the first place, soberly assess the situation, think about what qualities you would like to see your husband? Not thinking at this point about a particular person, take a sheet of paper and write down all of these qualities, and the more points the better, and then select those items which correspond to your partner.

This simple test will allow you to determine how a guy responds to your requests: to think seriously about marriage should only be if he scored 75% or more. If less - then the game is not worth the candle, you are to him sooner or later will grow cold, it will not suit you, and relations still fall apart. In this case it is better to let him go now and go in search of someone who will fit the ideal.
Unfortunately, not all the girls after a long-term relationships, even if it is not too well off, able to give up: it is often not confident, they fall into an emotional dependence on men. Its symptoms are as follows: "I can not leave him, I can not do without it, I suffer from his love."
In this case it is necessary to radically change the relationship. Your condition must be: "If these relationships do not suit me, then I can leave at any moment. I am completely free, and attractive enough to find yourself a fan if the need arises. " If you can not live without this person, and he is without you - very well may do, then he will manage the situation, not you.
But in any case, remember that your relationship is in your hands, and they should develop so that:
1) you were his best friend, because only in this case, your marriage will be strong;
2) you have had common interests and hobbies, try to enjoy his pleasures with him;
3) talk about all that worried about it, if only you had not taboo;
4), and most importantly, build a common future plans, so that he could not imagine my life without you.
If you were able to successfully fulfill all the conditions, the man is ready to make a family. He is well with you, he cares about your relationship with you, he plans to later life and, therefore, a romantic proposal in the offing.
Many women who are tired of the uncertainty of the meetings, or "civil" marriage, wonder how to get a man to marry. And not to persuade, not convince, not to beg, in the end, namely to make. Such methods are, of course, there is, but so important for women to know that cause a person to enter into a marriage with you - then buy a spouse is not a friend and assistant, and the enemy. If for some reason the man does not hurry to the registrar, you can agree with him in a good (and if not - then consider this: maybe it is not worth it to communicate?).
And finally: in 25-30 years, dark thoughts creep in, "All were married, and I?". Someone continues to wait for my happiness, and someone finds hasty marriage. Alas, it may be short-lived. Lovely girl, do not despair. If you've been dating a guy, but even the slightest drop of doubt creeps into your feelings, if you're not sure you can live with this person, go away ... Do not be afraid. Be confident in yourself. After all, there must exist on Earth your only half.
You can make a huge mistake, you can force him to marry, based on the most dangerous feeling for marriage - affection, and then inflict more fatal blow - a divorce, and God forbid, it will affect children. Think about it. You are young, beautiful, get them, after all 25-30 years old - a great age, you've been a lot, you have a job, and you are not dependent on men, and this is important.

The strength of women in feminine ...

2012-02-07T19:25:00.000+06:00

Women do not often speak words of love, and even more rarely married name. Why men do not dare to make an offer to their girls? A hundred years ago such a question was not. Then the men looking for and achieved women. Today, more women than men and manners are not the same. But is it only that?
Courageous women, feminine men
"The fact is that today, men are less enterprising and resolute than ever before - comes into the conversation the psychologist Ghalia Suburova. - Do not call in vain gone century - the century of feminine men and masculine women. It continues in the XXI-th. Today, we see that women in most parts of the position occupied by men, while men are in a relaxed state. Hence their inactivity. Why are men more feminine, and women more like men? There is an explanation. "

Men fight, kill them. Women - in the rear. And in all positions, all positions replace men. They have machines, run by collective farms, plowing, sowing, work. Women have become the men perform masculine tasks. This went on for quite some time. Then it was necessary to rebuild the country, and the main difficulty lay down again on the shoulders of women.
Gradually, women were serious, responsible, mother. And gave birth to the corresponding offspring. If they have a more masculine energy, then their inner man "dampens" cherished son, and lives out a weakened boy. A girl on the contrary - became strong, with a strong core. And it is already built into the boys at the genetic level. And this is the main reason that men are feminine. To argue with nature - a losing option. But what we women do? As they revive the masculine?
Educating against the energy
Girl, you must first bring her man - continues Galia. - And it's better if it will take for the two women: his mother and girlfriend. But more often we see a different picture: the mother does not want to let go of their child, a son, keep him near himself. To her, than it is softer, quieter, the better. She is the main thing that he was obedient, comfortable, convenient (especially for tough women). So in-law, as a rule, not an assistant, with rare exceptions. Therefore, before a girl gets a difficult task - not only to help her man be born again, but to confront the mother of the energy that keeps it in the children's condition. "
Solutions are at great depth, inside yourself, where you can find answers to questions. View: Who am I? Not that I Amazon, not with sword and shield it? Maybe I'm too militant girlfriend? Then the futile fight with the powerful mother who has a shield and a sword stronger sharper. No one knows who will win. The man, rather, will be on the side of the mother, and rarely - on the contrary.
The only way that can cope with this task - not to reinforce their masculinity, not to fight, not fight, but rather to become a superwoman.
"Refer to their feminine nature and gain their femininity - advises Galia. - As soon as you get to the point of his female, you will feel it and start a disclose it. Everything will change. Man, even immature, the woman will feel instantly and start to become courageous, because it sounded a number of femininity. And he realizes that he is the head of the family and must take responsibility for themselves. Femininity is something lacking in most modern girls. "
In my life there is a striking confirmation of the fact. My friend, who always had a reputation for "guy in a skirt," divorced after two years of married life with a good guy, just because she considered it, and mumbled a weakling, unable to make decisions. He married six months after the divorce to the girl, dandelion, as then, we dubbed it. And all were convinced that these two "amoeba" (so crowed when his ex-) long stretch together. But they have lived for ten years, gave birth to two beautiful children and all of them wonderful. This "Dandelion" its lightweight helplessness gave him the opportunity to feel like a man.
How to evoke femininity?
On this subject, written many books. The only thing in any case do not have to take the course: a woman a bitch. This is just the strengthening of masculinity in a woman, her strong-willed rod. Such women have no future. They can achieve something, but really happy they will not. If it is now "break the bank," then later it always starts the problem. It is defined by the principles of life. A woman should be a woman. This is her way, the meaning of life, its task.
"Tenderness - do a keyword for a woman. A gentle word, a gentle look, a gentle touch, a gentle voice - Galya teaches. - We must all pay attention and learn. Too many made from a tough mother, from the harsh society, so the tender must be educated. Only by opening their feminine nature, love and respect for the men can reveal themselves. If a girl has a space man, whom she respects and nourishes even the worst sense, it speaks of her unfeminine. In feminine woman does not surrounded by men whom she does not respect: they either disappear from its space, or exhibit the best masculine qualities. That is, we must have the wisdom to find a woman and be what you want to see a man. "
Open and read the Wikipedia: "Femininity - ethical category, meaning the sum of the qualities expected of women."
To be honest, this definition simply knocked me up. Each needs its own amount. In addition, there are some concepts that are difficult to explain, but when confronted with them in life, just say - here it is. Such a notion is true femininity. But it is important to know that this is not the skirt, heels, jewelry and cosmetics. Femininity is visible to the eyes, voice, manner. Someone does not agree?
Originally from incomplete families
Pictures of the family happy, fulfilling today, probably not many. We have several generations brought up in families without understanding the meaning of family and its values, roles, images, etc. Against this background, it is difficult to have a positive experience. What to do?
Now is a great time with the competence to create this image. For most girls, first we must understand what a family is, and add the image to see a family in my head, because the way we think and live. If the mind is the image of a happy family, then he put into practice, if it is not - will be only a few fragments of happiness, the rest will be disastrous. And when a girl had put this knowledge, I realized figured out, then she and a man can start a conversation on this subject, then it will be able to show how great living in the family.
Only through negotiations, in which a woman begins to sound like a woman, she gives him her feminine condition, and it is under these energies will be revealed as a man. This is the essence of the process: if there is a woman, then there is always next to a man. If there is a superwoman, always will be supermuzhchina. Either this will be revealed, or disappear, and there will be one that fits her.
When he realizes that the woman in front of him, that for her sake, he will be on the ceiling.

Women secret - Breast Cancer

2012-02-06T19:25:00.000+06:00

The most common cancer among Kazakh women. According to official statistics, in 2010 in Almaty, a diagnosis was five hundred women.
Due to neglect of the disease killed about two hundred of them. Meanwhile, the detection of the disease at an early stage, the probability of cure is about 90%!
We asked Doctor of Medicine, chief physician of the city of Almaty Oncology Center Dilara Radikovna Kaydarovu to remind our women how dangerous this disease is and how it can be avoided.
From the history of the disease
In the urban oncology clinic was operated on a woman 49 years old. Breast, or rather what was left of it, had to be amputated. The tumor in the breast become sore, and she literally bled. The diagnosis was made quickly - breast cancer. Prior to the visit to the doctor she had just been treated with herbs, leeches, acupuncture ... When it subsided completely, and began in great pain, a woman came to the oncologist, mammologist. This patient was treated in an urban Oncology Center, and doctors do not lose hope for a favorable outcome. The problem of breast cancer lies in the fact that over time it can affect other organs. Tumor cells in the lymph nodes come first, and then through the bloodstream to other organs: liver, lungs and bones ...

Why not go to the doctor?
There are several reasons:
A. Hidden symptoms of the disease. The tumor does not hurt, do not worry, often small in size, it is difficult to detect on their own. To do this, and requires regular Breast examination at least once every two years, and women after 50 years - every year. Mammography or ultrasound detect the smallest tumors. Breast cancer in the early stages are well treated. This diagnosis is not a sentence, and every woman should know about it!
Two. Often finding the tumor, the women do not hurry to the doctor. Link to employment, important things, family problems. A woman with a tumor in the breast does not prefer to listen to a doctor and a neighbor who has "ever hurt his chest." Begin hiking on herbalists, sorcerers, healers, trips to China to try out for a costly experimental treatments. Do anything you want, but not what you want. And you just want to go to an appointment with the oncologist, mammologist and tests. No one has recovered from cancer of folk remedies.
Three. The third reason for the neglect of disease - fear. A woman fears that her amputated breasts, the hair will fall out from chemotherapy, she learns that the dead, and many more all other fears. The woman is behaving like the ostrich that hides its head in the sand. Can not see anything, so the problem seems not. Meanwhile, the problem is growing every day more and more.
If you see a doctor in time
If a patient came to see a doctor in a timely manner, then surgery may be organ-that is, with preservation of the breast. Even if time is lost and the woman strongly against mastectomy, without their consent, no one will do the operation. The doctor can only strongly recommend a particular surgical procedure. But the last word rests with the patient. In case of failure it must offer other methods of cancer treatment.
About the treatment
Drugs for cancer patients in Kazakhstan are available in sufficient quantities. They are issued free of charge, special state programs. Now there are many new chemotherapeutic agents, which allows to select drugs for the treatment of breast cancer is strictly individual. If a person comes to heart disease, chemotherapist picks up a drug that has minimal negative effect on the heart. If a woman is strongly opposed to losing hair, the therapist will try to pick up the drugs, the hair stayed in place. Appointment of chemotherapy depend on the age of the patient, from associated diseases, on the condition of the tumor itself.
Chemotherapy - is not easy, but effective treatment, however, have side effects, along with tumor cells, it can also affect healthy. But then, antibiotics, and even plain aspirin, too, have many side effects! Work chemotherapist is still to find an individual treatment strategy, which will have the least harm and bring maximum impact in the fight against disease.
Radiation therapy
It's no secret that is used in cancer radiation therapy or exposure to radiation on the tumor cells. Modern radiation machines are based on robotics. They irradiate the tumor three-dimensionally. The patient lies on a couch, which also moves three-dimensionally in order to synchronize the radiation and the tumor did not leave out the impact of radiation. During therapy the surrounding tissue close protection plates. Some authorities have to close on a mandatory basis: bone marrow, thyroid, heart.
Prophylaxis
There are other ways to treat breast cancer. Yet the lion's share of effort should be directed to the development of state programs for the annual Breast screening (screening) in the clinics, factories, in organizations where many women work. Items necessary to create mobile breast examinations. In order for women to go to these surveys and consulted a doctor in a timely manner, you need to talk about this issue and the benefits of early detection of cancer in TV commercials, special brochures, regular publications in the media. This is necessary because of our lack of understanding of women obvious fact - the importance of timely diagnosis and treatment of breast cancer.
Skills Training
The best time for self-examination - the first week after menstruation. Not menstruating women should examine the breast every month in the same day.
Should be lying on his back beneath the shoulder of the survey of a small roller or pad to the chest was slightly elevated. Palpate each breast with the opposite hand. Avoid rough feeling and capture a large area of breast tissue, as this may give the impression of seals, which are actually not. The study is conducted in three positions: hand "up his head," a hand to the side arm along the body. Fingers of opposite hand touches the outer half of the breast, starting from her nipple and moving outward and upward to the side of the chest wall. Then grope all areas inside half of the breast, from the nipple and moving to the sternum. Determine if there are any nodes, lumps or changes in the structure of the breast tissue or in the skin. What follows is to test the axillary and supraclavicular region. In moderate squeezing between the fingers areola and nipple check whether discharge from the nipple.

Where does the fear of marriage?

2012-02-04T21:22:00.000+06:00

Many and many people prefer to "bachelor" lifestyle, giving up marriage, or come in the not too formal and binding form of marriage (as is quite common-law marriage - simply, normal cohabitation without issuing any documents, guest marriage and so on, up to the virtual).
Often this situation is motivated by the fact that the old form of marriage is not viable under the new conditions of life, that this marriage dies. Like, before the marriage was a forced measure, designed to protect the interests of children, as a woman alone could not grow them, but now, when women are able to work and earn sometimes more than men, there is no need for marital relations. But does this matter?

The declared reasons for rejection of marriage does not seem quite compelling. Indeed, to ensure that children - only one component of marriage. Marriage - is much more than just the ability to give birth and raise a child. Nevertheless, failures proliferate.
Let us recall some historical facts. For example, the Queen of England Elizabeth I, considered one of the greatest rulers in the history of the state, life adamantly refused to marry. And this despite the fact that it is highly demanded by marriage and the birth of an heir to the throne. Elizabeth motivated rejection of marriage on religious grounds, but it appears that in fact the cause was different. Six marriages of her father, Henry VIII, Elizabeth, have caused persistent rejection of marriage. Until now the English students use the following mnemonic phrase to remember the fate of the wives of the King, "divorced, beheaded, died, divorced, beheaded, survived."
Elizabeth had the opportunity to observe the fate of the four royal wives, she knew the fate of his mother, who was executed on trumped-up charges of treason against the king, as well as the fate of Catherine of Aragon, first wife of Henry VIII, which had marriage declared invalid. By the way, very original divorce this King: marriage to Catherine of Aragon, and then with Anne Boleyn (mother of Elizabeth I), were declared null and void from the beginning, that automatically puts the children of these marriages in the position of bastards. This is what happened to Princess Mary (later became Queen Mary I Bloody), daughter of Catherine of Aragon, as happened with the Elizabeth. Princess fell asleep, and heir to the throne, has woken up illegitimate.
It should also be borne in mind that the marriage of Henry VIII were relatively short-lived. Two or three years - and another woman filled up a list of "former", and it was rising, and the scaffold. Marriage to Anne of Cleves, a prisoner of political considerations, lasted altogether for several months. Marriage with Anne Boleyn and Catherine Howard, signed by a passionate love, ended in executions. So it's no surprise that Elizabeth entire life avoiding marriage, she had a persistent view of marriage as something very dangerous for a woman and not too pleasant for a man.
Queen Elizabeth I was not alone in this opinion about marriage. Many women and men hold the same views, especially after his own failed marriages and divorces. In addition, there are those who just like Elizabeth, watched the failed marriage of the parents - with scandals, beatings and other "charms." Naturally, people who grew up in similar families, not too hurry to marriage, preferring a variety of analogues and surrogates, so to speak, the "free" attitude.
It should be noted that those who are not heavy with childish notions of marriage as a really painful and unpleasant, even after his own failed marriage tend to family relations, and pretty soon enter into a second marriage. Those who grew up in dysfunctional families, most of them are married rather late, and if you get divorced, then to the re-marriage is not broken, considering that a single experiment is sufficient, moreover, a negative personal experience confirms the initial installation of childhood: "good cause will not be called marriage."
If the same people who grew up in dysfunctional families, early marriage, it is often a flight from the family - the marriage is to get rid of the possibility of living with their parents and become independent. In most cases, such early marriages are tolerated well-established "family" relationship diagram, and it ends in divorce, as well as the installation of a lifetime: a marriage - it is bad.
The mantra "good cause will not be called marriage" is not eternal and unchanging. Change this setting, you can use a psychologist. It also varies, and then disappears when the path meets a really nice person, loving and caring, which is a matter of proving infidelity initial ideas about marriage. Unfortunately, many people pass by her happiness, blinded by the failure of parents and their own. And instead of visits to a psychologist prefer to communicate with friends and friends that support a negative opinion about the marriage relationship.
Yet, no matter what the opponents of traditional marriage , he still is not simply providing children, financial guarantee, and so forth, but in the first place - grief and joy of sharing between people (... and in sorrow and in joy, and in wealth and in poverty, and in health and disease ...). And as you know, shared joy magnified and split the mountain - is reduced. So that a good thing can be called marriage. Moreover - is called.

Modern Faces of Love

2011-12-08T13:14:00.001+06:00

The well-known poor man's son, born in a cattle trough at the inn, Jesus of Nazareth, throughout his short life, preached the love of the Lord in heaven, his neighbor and his enemy - as the only correct way to live life the earth (or in one other human quality in the New Testament not relied so much as to love .)

Highbrow literary classics, from antiquity to modern times, from Sophocles to Dostoevsky at the forefront of thought and feeling, in many different styles and ways of expression and come to a consensus: only love will save us and utseleem. The chief of the "bugs" hair-worm, John Lennon, in between the LSD trips and bed construction of world peace with the old lady Yoko - far from the intellectual aestheticism hippies and not at all literary nerd, not being a great original, and nasally concluded: «All we need is love », getting a bullet in return (an equivalent response).

Love, love, love. The love of a woman . Love for the motherland . Love for their children, parents, to those who are close. Love for the people ... We are taught to love for so long their own kind, so carefully were forced to this feeling so pressured to morality and ethics, which seems to be a variety of forms of love, its still a lot of yesterday and our commitment to quality, today suddenly took and to us all at once over. Snapped like a stretched string that is tired give the highest note. Skukozhilos to the size of a mustard seed and fell into the darkness of our most extensive and mysterious souls, which we speculate wizard. And outside, in its place, jumped out of our natural kind of black toad with bulging eyes of hate, wrapped around the neck of his warty legs, and so there and hung. I understand that the author defines as a slippery subject - how to step on a banana peel, spread-eagled on the newly flooded rink. How to ask to cure cancer last stage, the other being himself unable to get rid of the elemental cold. And get on a moral Mordasov indented by heart: "Himself to treat, doctors are souls!". Soul-then we are still, generous and broad. But it seems that only in strictly reserved for this hour and in the right place. However, no moralizing, and appeals to the conscience of the ephemeral-makeweight. We assume that the author graphomania, and the reader reads from a neutral third party. ... Recently, when I was on a business trip in a tiny provincial hole in the door one-room apartment that I rented and rang. Having opened at the threshold, I had the displeasure to behold neighbor, whose bad voice through the wall at night drunk deduced roulades, preventing me from concentrating on the Malakhov and Zelensky:

- The neighbor borrow the bottle - without unnecessary preliminaries gave me on the forehead vsklochennaya nedolichnost.

- I do not - I wanted to slam the door in front of this drunken nedolitsom.

- Hey, want my wife? - He giggled drunkenly into the hole from the tooth. - She is still Nitsche ...

- A daughter? - Muzzle giggled more, guessing my intention to slam the door in his face ... - Give and ...?

A year before this, before the bus stop, on December concrete lay the human body decently dressed young man with pink, like a country girl, cheeks. Nearby stood about thirty people in the peaceful waiting for their bus or trolley, and nobody paid any attention to him, no matter who the young man tried to pick up with concrete and sit on the bench. No one helped. All hurry home. And before I caught a taxi to catch a dinner with his boss, and he did not shy of his subordinates, pulled out of a car stopped and beaten up in the blood of the poor kind old woman who is not hurried to leave the car. By law, the strong. After that, with a clear conscience left for the festival, which raises a toast to love . In these three cases, there is nothing extraordinary - all the trivial, not even causing a raised eyebrow. And cleaner, and pogryaznee happened before with each of us. Only here that long a thorn lodged in the fevered brain - so it's mediocrity, ordinariness, and perfect normality indifferent whole game birds. And the haste with which we all like to forget in a hurry. Love in us is long gone. That is, it is somewhere in the back of our souls, for the most-most, in small doses. Some even write articles on a given topic, calling them something like , "Should I dose Love?" , coming to the conclusion that yes, the heart must install dispenser and select the day of love, no more than three drops, so prematurely ended. And have a habit of repeating what de No, we are normal. Concerned and compassionate. And those who do not agree - in the face. And if not, then we are - this time. To him and to bring a claim. We have forgotten how to love. We have solid claims to the world and each other. Instead of passing to thank for showing what a caring, we seek out flaws in it. Comes to the absurd: a man of pure altruism provides a service to us, and we for it yet and reproach. Or cleaner: evil for good. So we have now adopted. Our TV can not watch without crying. Feeling irresistible all mad and crazy its still boast hanging out your dirty pantaloons for the whole country. 's parents are suing the children . Children get rid of the parents in nursing homes or throwing them in the trash, as unnecessary. Wives are selected property and livelihood from former husbands. Ex-husbands are taken from ex-wives, children. Fathers raping underage sons and daughters. Sons and daughters of bullying weaker classmates. Weak classmates, tyrannised by their comrades, unable to resist their tormentors poured gasoline and set fire to a kitten. State hates his citizens and the citizens hate their government. And all this under the general hubbub that, say, all right, everything is normal and should not be exaggerated .The devil knows, really all the way through, as many claim? In a society where decent to make a nasty neighbor and tell her, without false shame, rather than on the same shit to curl out loud and not be nailed to the pillory with branded on his forehead public verdict "Hypocrites". We are ready to understand and forgive the last drunk, and ubivtsa molester, finding excuses for his words, rather than someone who is better, cleaner, and above us. Who is not in a hurry to dive into the same pit depart, which we all sit. Because gut feel is closer to the boozer or ubivtse than to "isusiku." Disease stop noticing when to get used to it. Become a part of it. To her. The desire to speak and not be silent, shout and be indignant suggests that the eye is not zamylen and conscience to sleep. What with the exigencies of the situation does not agree and want to change it. That to live as we live, and not disgust. No, of course, love in us is not yet died. It is, somewhere on the outskirts of our patient and such a big heart. Tired of pressing problems, these endless "buy" and "do", we still feel something, watching this very lack of love in our fellow man. Sometimes we get it, out of it here and there, something is clearly nedovolstvuya, but rarely show - either shame, or something like that. And bystrehonko hide back so that no one had thought of our common humanity. Embarrassing somehow ...

How to attract attention to themselves and to meet

2011-12-07T13:05:00.004+06:00

Attract attention to himself - then become the focus of people around you. But the main thing - do it right and beyond the bounds of decency. Let us consider a few ways, a couple of them, I think you just fine.

1. Allow yourself to discern

The main thing - do not hide and do not be afraid of facing you at attention. Let others see your behavior , interests, style, etc. You just be yourself, do not be shy, and in any case not be trapped, because it is at least sandwiched people are paying attention.

2. Humor and Liberty

This is one of the oldest and most effective way to have the conversation of strangers. Allow yourself to joke and be more free in their behavior. This way is much better than when in a conversation with someone you "Miss or Mr. seriousness", because nothing is in conversation with another person just to smile, especially if the person you care about. Even the simple and mundane joke on your part can very easily turn the conversation with this person in your party.

3. The Accidental Gift

If you decide to meet a girl, buy, for example, flowers, and if a man - a beautiful pen. Walking along the street and noticing you want your man, just walk up and say, "This is for you." In many cases, this method works correctly and reliably. Since the first moment a person simply has no time to lose and nothing to understand - this time to tie a conversation with him. A really nice of small gifts no one will refuse. At the same person who received such a gift would feel properly. And most importantly - do not be shy, be confident and act more boldly. Indeed, to achieve something (in your case - someone) is sometimes required to take the risk, but here your risk does not carry any losses.

4. Intrigue and excite curiosity

It is quite clear that most of us are looking for a guaranteed approach to success. As a rule, guys or girls who have no experience in street acquaintances. For example, you can start a conversation with a question:

- Let me ask you an unusual question. You dancing?

Apparently, the phrase "extraordinary question "certainly raises curiosity, and the use of" fuzzy ", few intelligible words in the search for inspiring their own interpretations. You will agree that even if you will approach a nice young man or a beautiful girl and what may ask, especially about the unusual, it is unlikely you will be able to ignore the question or answer something pretty drastic.

5. Unexpected or unusual action in everyday situations act

The fact that you went to a stranger on the street, in and of itself can be attributed to an extraordinary behavior, because very few can boast of skill in this art. And your strange behavior can completely turn our attention to yourself. All utterly simple, you just need to come to the right person to you, as he did to you just do not expect it.

6. Play a role

You give yourself to someone who is not even a member. For example, a doctor, journalist, archaeologist, designer, poet, traveler, etc., that is for the person involved in those things which are very interesting. These things, above all, include: interpersonal relationships, spiritual and mysterious passion, adventure, fashion and art.

Just before you approach a person, think about any of this category of people you would like to be and then ask the question, which is associated with this profession. Of course, we should not ask too abstruse questions, ask simple - for example, it may be associated with dizaynerstvom: "Hello, I'm a designer and am working on a new suit. Do not tell what color to choose buttons on his jacket is blue? "

Hearing this question, people usually begin to speculate on this subject, and you can gradually turn the conversation to his side. Agree on what we are not talking just for the sake of love and warm relations !

7. To satisfy a sense of uniqueness and the uniqueness of the

This method consists of compliments. Meanwhile you compliments. This is very effective if they are not commonplace. It may be admirable skin, neck, hands, clothes, watches, etc. The main thing - do not be afraid, there is no big deal, you will be at least - your attention and observation. No one will refuse to hear a compliment to your address, so be bold.

8. Pretend that you already know, or rule of three seconds

There is a rule that if you approach a person for three seconds after you saw it, chances are that your start up a conversation, increases twice. The rule is based on the fact that people do not have time to analyze what is happening, do not have time to think, and so they are easier to "lead the". The main thing is not lost by over three seconds, and everything will be in your hands.

9. Take care

Indulgent care, generosity - these are things that will satisfy no one. The only pity is that the chance to commit such an act falls infrequently. But just take care to show you just about anywhere and in any situation, for this you just have to pay some attention to the person you are interested.

10. "Correct," a fact of life

This method is intended for your observation. When looking at a stranger, you can make any conclusion about his lifestyle, the utterance of your guesses aloud can be very interested in it, and your conversations start up by itself. For example, seeing a man with a book, you can ask: "I see you like reading?"

Even if this person just has to pass this book or buy it as a gift, then your question it will respond accurately, especially if you keep your own question with the phrase "I love to read" or something like that.

What to say to a woman on a first date?

2011-12-06T13:48:00.001+06:00

What is the man to draw the attention women how to be interesting to talk to her and make a good impression? Agree, if you ever do just what to say compliments , then you show the lady too corny, you may even find a master (or not) sycophant.

And all rendezvous bait jokes and amuse his companion - good, but not long-lasting idea: it works as long as not dry up your supply of jokes. As you begin to repeat, the woman loses interest in you and to your words. Do not forget that there is a small percentage of people who generally have no sense of humor. Some men on the first date behave like water in my mouth scored. They very much want to impress a serious man, but in fact are boring people who have nothing to tell you.Women love the ears. And - yes! - They love the romantics , men with whom you can talk endlessly "about the eternal." Why men need to talk to us about the eternal?

Yes, because my friends and we discuss two eternal themes: 1) men and 2) once again have nothing to wear.

1. About hobbies.

Tell the soul of your hobbies

This boundless theme. You can tell his companion, not only about their favorite authors of books, paintings, prints, and everything, what do you plan in the near future to do . Talk about your favorite lesson can be a long time without stopping, so it pays to follow the reaction of your companion (companion): if felt that the person is boring, smoothly change the subject.

2. On the work.

If it is extremely interesting You'll want to know more about each other to provide a complete picture. Job and career plans play a significant role in each of our lives. It is worth to know how ambitious your fiancee to what heights it aspires in life or not seeking, but is content with a stable position.

3. About the car

If he has both. Or one of you is only going to buy , sell. Subject cars is very fertile. If a woman understands the mechanisms, then discuss the superiority of particular characteristics can spend hours figuring out what are the advantages of the new model cars, compared with its previous version.

4. On the sea

Impressions of a holiday - also an interesting topic worthy of much discussion. But it can also lead you to the discussion. In order to avoid sharp corners in the conversation, try not to give a categorical negative responses. And it turns out that you think Egypt is not a very good place to relax, and your friend there with pleasure every year and goes all happy.

5. Of clothing

The guy my friend Masha was famous for that fashion-conscious. Perhaps because he himself was a metrosexual. Or because they belonged to the world of show business and not deal in such delicate matters, apparently, had no right.

However, when Masha just met him, he gave a subtle compliment to her taste and sense of style . Subsequently, the same given her some things and gave advice: what to wear and what to look stunning.If a man versed in fashion, and in women's fashion, and is should look like the heroine of our time, this issue may be simply saving. The woman will be very grateful to you for what you can to keep the conversation and give a "fashion" advice. For some reason, most men when a woman starts talking about the clothes start to dismiss it as of nuisance value. And in vain!

6. About the stars

Not just romantic attach such importance stars and the planets. Apart from these, this area of interest in professional stargazers, astronomers, and the fate of magicians. Does your companion believes in horoscopes , omens, fortune-telling? At what point will converge your horoscope? In India, for example, horoscopes attach great importance: before the wedding, compare the horoscopes of bride and groom, and if they do not converge, it may even disrupt the wedding.

7. About cookies

Talking about cooking can not only foodies or people who love to cook. Does not interfere with his companion to tell about their favorite dishes and desserts. Suddenly you find that you're both vegetarians. Then it's just fate brought you together!

8. About pets

If your home has animals , do not hesitate to tell about your new friend. Not only love animals and allergies selfish. The story of a dog or cat a good living in your home, will certainly cause a normal person want to look at your pet and pet him. And this is an occasion for a second date.

Men, what would you say on a first date, the main thing - that it may be interesting to talk with your companion, and you would feel the expression of sympathy on her part. Do not be afraid of appearing ridiculous or strange. We are all very different people. Therefore not played a superhero, just be yourself.

Lose Weight bored for a whole year

2011-12-05T13:42:00.000+06:00

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They fear intimofoby?

2011-12-04T13:23:00.001+06:00

Perhaps intimofobiya - this is one area in which women have surpassed men, if not, then overtook them in full. Fears that prevent open your heart to another human soul, in intimofobov accumulated a great many. Fear of disappointment in the partner, fear of hurting him or feel pain, fear of betrayal, fear of losing rights (through his death), unwillingness to adapt to its habits and fear of losing their - in short, all those fears that most people can overcome a have intimofobov reach a total denial of the very possibility of being with someone nearby. It is important that intimofoby often understand their condition and even talk about it with their partners at the beginning stages of relationships. But they, as usual, do not take it seriously. And as we all know this outburst: "That he was so to meet with me, I certainly do not like the others, I will cure him!" But this desire can only worsen their pressure and to convince intimofoba flee.

But how properly to treat fear of intimacy? Intimofobiya - this is a disorder that is the best treatment if ... cease to treat it. When a man or woman, who wanted to heal intimofoba begins often with him to talk about it or try to surround him with love , he stumbles on a cold wall and the closure of the partner. And finally at one point it loses forever, because such a person strangle the love and care and create the illusion of loss of freedom. If you love intimofob and you really want to help, accept the idea that he would never tell you the treasured words of love, but can stay with you a number of years. You can do it one way - keeping him at a distance (of course, within the relations of man and woman), not encroaching on his freedom and not about love in general zagovarivaya.

This is a very important moment, during which time you will have to decide: either you're willing to live for years next to the beloved or the beloved, not to mention to her about feelings, and while having friendship and support, and sex, and other aspects of marriage, or you is time to stop wasting your time on re-education, so you do not accuse anyone in the "best years gone by." Still life with intimofobom - not so easy share a loving partner. As a rule, aware of their problem people will be grateful to their halves for understanding, support and lack of pressure. And since, in spite of the passion and the surface amorousness, intimofoby understand that objectively they are unlikely to meet someone who understands more than you, they are unlikely ever to exchange comfort relationship with you for a new hobby, which may have to have the same problems with new . And because you have every chance to live with a loved intimofobom years.

Modern Faces of Love

2011-12-03T17:19:00.000+06:00

- The neighbor borrow the bottle - without unnecessary preliminaries gave me on the forehead vsklochennaya nedolichnost.

- I do not - I wanted to slam the door in front of this drunken nedolitsom.

- Hey, want my wife? - He giggled drunkenly into the hole from the tooth. - She is still Nitsche ...

- A daughter? - Muzzle giggled more, guessing my intention to slam the door in his face ... - Give and ...?

Why is this happening?

2011-12-03T13:18:00.002+06:00

In fact, it is not completely established, but there is clearly traced the consequences of bored all of emancipation, the feminization and other legacy of the 20th century things. Judge for yourself: at present, erasing the boundaries of sex, which today is indisputably and clearly leads to the fact that to create a full-fledged relations with a partner formally drop out all the reasons that had for centuries kept people together. And it's not even a question of marriage, as it might seem. Even without the seal in the passport, there are unions of two loving people. But intimofob runs from any union, any union, and even the hint of such. If a young man from childhood not see happiness of parents, girls do not perceive as some beautiful creatures, but as a trouble-free partners in one night, and before the eyes of many examples zhenivshihsya friends who have been divorced six months after the wedding - as he want a close relationship with girls, and he was not afraid of relationships? If she sees around young people descended from seeds at the door, if it is objectively understands that learned to do without their support and the support, and next door neighbor is drunk regularly beats his neighbor - both open her heart to the men? Intimofoby usually quite successful , reaching a lot in life ... But do not know how to love. I have often heard from them that they feel flawed because it does not feel never anything more than usual a short drive. And on closer inspection they really suffer because of external bravado somehow hiding the need for love that overcomes fear.

How to live with intimofobom?

2011-12-02T13:12:00.001+06:00

If you have not heard this phrase in his address, it is possible that you think about 30% of adult men and women suffering intimofobiey - so call it a phenomenon psychologists. This disorder (and this is a disorder rather than disease) diagnosed each year thousands of people around the world. But is it really suffers intimofob? Fear of close emotional relationship with a partner was often not only in our century, but a few centuries ago. For example, a suspect intimofobii famous lover Casanova hero. The main distinguishing feature is the desire to avoid intimofoba attachment to another person. That's why intimofoba often confused with a womanizer , but it is not the same thing: theoretically, a womanizer can fall in love, marry and even have quite contented family, the loyalty to his wife's adventures. Intimofoba is horrified just the phrase "I love you" that normal people are waiting with bated breath. Womanizer do not care about feelings of his partners, he does not want to fall in love with himself. Intimofob is afraid of the manifestations of feelings in general - that is, to confess her love for him means losing it forever

What we're really afraid?

2011-12-01T13:30:00.000+06:00

A man and women usually a lot of things scared in my life to do or not do ... Scared to go to the dentist. Scared to change jobs. It is terrible to end a relationship in which so badly that you know - that the time has come, but there is a fear of being alone.
Why and what is actually afraid of us ?
I, for instance, I'm afraid to sleep alone. It seems to me that night when I'm alone in bed with me will be something bad. Death.A fear of rejection? People are afraid that they will refuse the request, in love and care. For example, fear of losing a loved one.

What lies behind it? If I do not like the way I want, then I will be bad, I'll be alone. Forever alone. And then I'm going to death all alone. And if you do not like, then all life will be in misery and loneliness . Why am I afraid to be alone? What I feel bad with myself? I recently told one sentence: "And you would with herself sat drinking tea?" And that's what I thought. After all, if I'm not interested in itself, bad, boring, etc., as different from me? You can, of course, other seem fun, but it can not last long. It's expensive - all the time not for what you really are. And what I mean? The thing is that I do not know what I am real. Again - think of the village and there are thinking about themselves. I - is different. Cheerful, sad, love, detached, angry, tender. All that's me. I simply can not be any. But it can be seen only if I itself , and when I'm alone when I'm with the others. Otherwise, look at me, something is there and decide to hang the label. She - an optimist, for example. So it is with others. We meet a man. Something about him thinking. Find something to do with our past acquaintances, analyze, and label ready. And who is he, what he really is, and we do not want to think. It's easier. With the labels easier. The thing is that as long as we do not see a real, we'll keep the labels and will communicate with the same labels. For example, the label " real man ". Oh, he's very popular, I had in the recent past. I had a picture of this man. Naturally, there were signs by which I should have known it from the crowd. And, of course, learned and found. Only then it turned out that he knows nothing, that he was "real man" and should be ... and then on my list. And yet he is not doing what was supposed to do. It was also in the list of "real man". I have suffered. Each time considered that they are deceiving me. First, pretend to be real, and then bang - that's all. Other. It turns out he did not know he was something he owed. And when it became permanent, I thought. What is wrong? Maybe in my case, not in them, these men? It turned out in me! And when you realize it was easier, a little easier. A more popular fear - fear of change . Oh, how I was scared every time to change jobs, even though the forces are no longer there. However, I am, and then it was already clear that the fear was invented by me and inflated. We think that if we change something in your life, then it is sure to be worse than it is now. But we can not know for sure? Similarly, we can not. Therefore, we must sit down and decide if you want it or not. Then try a different way, and if you liked it and felt good, go ahead! Even if you have to jump over the precipice, it is worth it. If that is how you live, do not like, if you live in a swamp, it's time to get out of it . The main thing - to know how. And it is desirable to find travel companions themselves. Together more fun and not so scary. Way to yourself is always difficult and sometimes it seems dangerous. But otherwise, no way. And those who went inside myself to find myself now, I sincerely wish to find itself. Including myself.

Why men do not teach women happy?

2011-11-30T13:25:00.000+06:00

The Momo of another friend of mine about the imperfections of her lover, come to the conclusion that, perhaps, in our country for many poor women who continue to multiply and multiply their problems. Why is this happening? Does anyone of us are more lucky in life and in personal relationships? Gypsy fortune-teller-inclined to call it bad karma. But psychologists say it's all about the peculiarities of female character: blame softness, forgiveness, the desire to love, no matter what - or rather, against the odds. Speaking of happiness, do not mean something remote and ephemeral, what we all want, I want to say about happiness as a state of mind of peace, prosperity, happiness and mutual love . I bow to the conclusion that there are two reasons why some men can not make women happy:

1. The reason for the male
So, blame the men, as some of them can not make happy any woman in the world, no matter how good it was. Not able to because of their self-centeredness and obsession with their own interest. Thus, they tend to suppress someone else's identity and women's desires and needs.
Egoists are not born. Let's look at contemporary culture education for boys and girls and compare approaches.
As we can see, girls are taught from childhood: cooking, cleaning, sewing, etc.
What is taught the boys in the family? In some families, the boys live in doing nothing; eventually they just get used to this way of life and see it as self-evident.
It turns out that, as adults, a man begins to live for you. While the woman is looking for a man to start a family and devote his life to serving her husband and children. As a result, women complain that they are awfully tired, and men do not understand them. And why should that change anything? If both are accustomed to live.
2. The reason for a woman
On the other hand, women are not to blame for not less than the established relationship with a partner. In view of some of its natural qualities and thanks to fairy tales about princesses and handsome prince (who have already read to forbid little girls at night), women tend to idealize a lot of men. And if a man chooses his eyes, as many would have noticed the irony, for "packaging", the woman is not as important as the man looks like: Well, a little oblique, well, limping on his left leg (injured in the army) and yes, dress in bad taste, but what natural man, as well, and rightly says! The first thing you are trying to make out a man in a woman - her body, and a woman in a man - his sensitive soul, and courageous character. But still we (women), of course, can be called more than a dozen criteria like quality and a sense of humor, charm, etc. But all these criteria are somewhere disappears when we see before us a living person and begin to communicate with him. As a woman with makeup and clothes properly chosen trying to convince the man in her beauty, as a man with beautiful phrases to persuade a woman to their seriousness. By the way, young people are taught the art of this beautiful seduction courses pick up artist : if you want to drag a woman into bed - tell her what she was special. If women had set a goal of a hundred lovers fuck for their lives, they would not bother as to any moral principles and a family.
What again is it that education is all my fault?
The first thing to do girl who is looking for serious relationship - is to remove the rose-colored glasses. This does not mean that wherever there is a settlement, there is no place of love. On the contrary, this is where you will find love, happiness and respect. And then a sudden feeling that you tend to call love, what brings you too much pain - it's a passion . You can live with passion, while a healthy mind. When you start to drink strong anti-depressants - which means that with love, passion, time to tie. It's time to become an adult.
3. Good advice man
Men, if you are not prone to a serious relationship, do not meddle in someone else's soul, better find a woman who share your interests, or you have to pay for one-time relationship. And masturbation is generally the cheapest, reliable and painless way to meet those needs. So, men, if you still want to make a woman happy - do not lie to her from the beginning. Yes, then perhaps you did not choose it and pass. And it will be right. But over time you find one that wants to stay with you despite your flaws.

How to attract attention to themselves and to meet

2011-11-29T13:24:00.002+06:00

Attract - attention to himself - then become the focus of people around you. But the main thing - do it right and beyond the bounds of decency. Let us consider a few ways, a couple of them, I think you just fine.
1. Allow yourself to discern
The main thing - do not hide and do not be afraid of facing you at attention. Let others see your behavior , interests, style, etc. You just be yourself, do not be shy, and in any case not be trapped, because it is at least sandwiched people are paying attention.

2. Humor and Liberty
This is one of the oldest and most effective way to have the conversation of strangers. Allow yourself to joke and be more free in their behavior. This way is much better than when in a conversation with someone you "Miss or Mr. seriousness", because nothing is in conversation with another person just to smile, especially if the person you care about. Even the simple and mundane joke on your part can very easily turn the conversation with this person in your party.
3. The Accidental Gift
If you decide to meet a girl, buy, for example, flowers, and if a man - a beautiful pen. Walking along the street and noticing you want your man, just walk up and say, "This is for you." In many cases, this method works correctly and reliably. Since the first moment a person simply has no time to lose and nothing to understand - this time to tie a conversation with him. A really nice of small gifts no one will refuse. At the same person who received such a gift would feel properly. And most importantly - do not be shy, be confident and act more boldly. Indeed, to achieve something (in your case - someone) is sometimes required to take the risk, but here your risk does not carry any losses.
4. Intrigue and excite curiosity
It is quite clear that most of us are looking for a guaranteed approach to success. As a rule, guys or girls who have no experience in street acquaintances. For example, you can start a conversation with a question: - Let me ask you an unusual question. You dancing?
Apparently, the phrase "extraordinary question "certainly raises curiosity, and the use of" fuzzy ", few intelligible words in the search for inspiring their own interpretations. You will agree that even if you will approach a nice young man or a beautiful girl and what may ask, especially about the unusual, it is unlikely you will be able to ignore the question or answer something pretty drastic.
5. Unexpected or unusual action in everyday situations act
The fact that you went to a stranger on the street, in and of itself can be attributed to an extraordinary behavior, because very few can boast of skill in this art. And your strange behavior can completely turn our attention to yourself. All utterly simple, you just need to come to the right person to you, as he did to you just do not expect it.
6. Play a role
You give yourself to someone who is not even a member. For example, a doctor, journalist, archaeologist, designer, poet, traveler, etc., that is for the person involved in those things which are very interesting. These things, above all, include: interpersonal relationships, spiritual and mysterious passion, adventure, fashion and art. Just before you approach a person, think about any of this category of people you would like to be and then ask the question, which is associated with this profession. Of course, we should not ask too abstruse questions, ask simple - for example, it may be associated with "Hello, I'm a designer and am working on a new suit. Do not tell what color to choose buttons on his jacket is blue? " Hearing this question, people usually begin to speculate on this subject, and you can gradually turn the conversation to his side. Agree on what we are not talking just for the sake of love and warm relations !
7. To satisfy a sense of uniqueness and the uniqueness of the
This method consists of compliments. Meanwhile you compliments. This is very effective if they are not commonplace. It may be admirable skin, neck, hands, clothes, watches, etc. The main thing - do not be afraid, there is no big deal, you will be at least - your attention and observation. No one will refuse to hear a compliment to your address, so be bold.
8. Pretend that you already know, or rule of three seconds
There is a rule that if you approach a person for three seconds after you saw it, chances are that your start up a conversation, increases twice. The rule is based on the fact that people do not have time to analyze what is happening, do not have time to think, and so they are easier to "lead the". The main thing is not lost by over three seconds, and everything will be in your hands.
9. Take care
Indulgent care, generosity - these are things that will satisfy no one. The only pity is that the chance to commit such an act falls infrequently. But just take care to show you just about anywhere and in any situation, for this you just have to pay some attention to the person you are interested.
10. "Correct," a fact of life
This method is intended for your observation. When looking at a stranger, you can make any conclusion about his lifestyle, the utterance of your guesses aloud can be very interested in it, and your conversations start up by itself. For example, seeing a man with a book, you can ask: "I see you like reading?"
Even if this person just has to pass this book or buy it as a gift, then your question it will respond accurately, especially if you keep your own question with the phrase "I love to read" or something like that

What to say to a woman on a first date?

2011-11-28T13:21:00.000+06:00

what is the man to draw the attention women how to be interesting to talk to her and make a good impression? Agree, if you ever do just what to say compliments , you show yourselves to the lady's too corny, you may even find a master (or not) sycophant. And all rendezvous bait jokes and amuse his companion - good, but not long-lasting idea: it works as long as not dry up your supply of jokes. As you begin to repeat, the woman loses interest in you and to your words. Do not forget that there is a small percentage of people who generally have no sense of humor. Some men on the first date behave like water in my mouth scored.

They very much want to impress a serious man, but in fact are boring people who have nothing to tell you. Women love the ears. And - yes! - They love the romantics , men with whom you can talk endlessly "about the eternal." Why men need to talk to us about the eternal? Yes, because my friends and we discuss two eternal themes: 1) men and 2) once again have nothing to wear.
1. About hobbies. Tell the soul of your hobbies
This boundless theme. You can tell his companion, not only about their favorite authors of books, paintings, prints, and everything, what do you plan in the near future to do . Talk about your favorite lesson can be a long time without stopping, so it pays to follow the reaction of your companion (companion): if felt that the person is boring, smoothly change the subject.
2. On the work. If it is extremely interesting
You'll want to know more about each other to provide a complete picture. Job and career plans play a significant role in each of our lives. It is worth to know how ambitious your fiancee to what heights it aspires in life or not seeking, but is content with a stable position.
3. About the car
If he has both. Or one of you is only going to buy , sell. Subject cars is very fertile. If a woman understands the mechanisms, then discuss the superiority of particular characteristics can spend hours figuring out what are the advantages of the new model cars, compared with its previous version.
4. On the sea
Impressions of a holiday - also an interesting topic worthy of much discussion. But it can also lead you to the discussion. In order to avoid sharp corners in the conversation, try not to give a categorical negative responses. And it turns out that you think Egypt is not a very good place to relax, and your friend there with pleasure every year and goes all happy.
5. Of clothing
The guy my friend Masha was famous for that fashion-conscious. Perhaps because he himself was a metrosexual. Or because they belonged to the world of show business and not deal in such delicate matters, apparently, had no right.
However, when Masha just met him, he gave a subtle compliment to her taste and sense of style . Subsequently, the same given her some things and gave advice: what to wear and what to look stunning. If a man versed in fashion, and in women's fashion, and is should look like the heroine of our time, this issue may be simply saving. The woman will be very grateful to you for what you can to keep the conversation and give a "fashion" advice. For some reason, most men when a woman starts talking about the clothes start to dismiss it as of nuisance value. And in vain!
6. About the stars
Not just romantic attach such importance stars and the planets. Apart from these, this area of interest in professional stargazers, astronomers, and the fate of magicians. Does your companion believes in horoscopes , omens, fortune-telling? At what point will converge your horoscope? In India, for example, horoscopes attach great importance: before the wedding, compare the horoscopes of bride and groom, and if they do not converge, it may even disrupt the wedding.
7. About cookies
Talking about cooking can not only foodies or people who love to cook. Does not interfere with his companion to tell about their favorite dishes and desserts. Suddenly you find that you're both vegetarians. Then it's just fate brought you together!
8. About pets
If your home has animals , do not hesitate to tell about your new friend. Not only love animals and allergies selfish. The story of a dog or cat a good living in your home, will certainly cause a normal person want to look at your pet and pet him. And this is an occasion for a second date.
Men, what would you say on a first date, the main thing - that it may be interesting to talk with your companion, and you would feel the expression of sympathy on her part. Do not be afraid of appearing ridiculous or strange. We are all very different people. Therefore not played a superhero, just be yourself.

Gender discrimination - an imaginary problem

2011-11-12T13:27:00.000+06:00

Gender discrimination - an imaginary problem, or cunning, or sincerely wrong. The fact that some women do not experience discrimination, does not mean that it is not. And the main stronghold of the most discrimination - television! We have long been possible to all. And talk, and write, and print, and do, and show ... No, I'm not afraid for myself and for my generation. We are a separate flies from cutlets. Disgusting, troublesome, but we do not get used to, when "through the thorns to the stars." But those whose minds are hopelessly distorted by modern mass media since birth, I'm afraid not to understand. And the worst thing for them is that there is no need to understand, can not arise, no preconditions ... Eat what is served ... And what we now treated to the omnipotent and omnipresent media? Print issues are less dangerous because it assumed the process of reading - special, unfashionable and unpopular in our process.

But television - is simply SWINE 21st century! After all, was right (and not only this!) Grandpa Lenin, when he called cinema (television did not yet exist), the most important of all arts. TV - a different story. Over the past 10 years, we have surpassed all the countries together on the number of heart-rending life stories. Indian storytellers just relax. Today would like to talk (or shout already!) On all channels flooded programs created, I think, to support life-glorious mind-extinction of our psevdozvezd. How else to explain their involvement in all kinds of talk and reality shows? Deprived of whatever talents they all suddenly become experts. Experts only! Stupid, talentless, tasteless dressed, yearning for the viewer's attention, they are clever in the "underwear" peredachek. Lecture ... A few days ago, arranged for herself poluvyhodnoy: got back later, going to slow down, even breakfasted almost in a working lunch for anyone in the kitchen TV. Sipping his coffee, looked into yet another sad female face on the screen ... A person complained ... To listen. That's it! Well what can complain about a woman's face today? That's right! Husband unhappy with this same person, but still unhappy with her husband figure, hair, demeanor, style of dress, in short, all he pleased. I want to, says that, as his friends: a beautiful, leggy, slim, fashionable. Well, how are your friends, you know ... Friends in the program did not show. But her husband appeared in all its glory. Puny small sharp-nosed pygmy with a hollow chest, narrow shoulders, small hands and piggy eyes. Just thinking here is that these handles would ran over my body was not myself. And it's being talked about sex nezhenskogo female beauty . By the way, my wife - mileyshee creation: the eyes of half his face, a smile - in the second half, open and shining. Black thick mop of curly hair. Well, not 90h60h90! So what? But the charm - excited and a little dolly! Powered clown, imagine!? So, cheerful, energetic, intelligent - in other words, the soul of any company. And a friend of her way, and said that she formed a harmonious, very peculiar and interesting personality, that no changes are needed: it is an amazing person! No! In the beauty salon and immediately! On the advice of and under the guidance of those same experts (They know what to do!). Wraps, masks, diet, new haircut, new wardrobe ... A change to a little man! All the benefits of cosmetology he borrowed, of course (and why not?), pamper yourself, pamper the body. And then a kick in the ass cachectic! And let somewhere else feeds their complexes, and asserts itself. Logical end of the transmission with the transformation his wife and her husband had received his sight I never saw him. And thank God, I believe. Much better zhivenko so imagine a different ending. Women! Wake up! It is our feelings are subject to logical analysis. Men love differently. They just love or dislike ... This is borne out by the way they are, rather, the best of them. Bunin, for example, Tolstoy, Kuprin, Vysotsky ... Who says that man is perfect because he is a man? Why are only men, dismissing their bellies - beer kegs, disguised his bald head under a fashionable hairstyle, growing a bottoms wider than shoulders, talk lately about what should be a woman? In the "fashionable verdict" defendants - women only, "immediately remove" all - with women, something "wrong" may be just for women. The man a priori - ideal! How long? Each such puzatenkogo psevdobozhka or dohlenkogo bitch a la Chervyakov want to ask you hto? Hto you, darling, to me, intelligent, beautiful, sexy and luxurious woman and horse, and the house ... to evaluate!? How often do you meet Tightened athletic, intelligent and well-groomed men? And so in this case without narcissism? Let me explain. A few years have given their precious gym 2:00 in the morning. Men and women in the gym about an equal amount, but a mirror is not just more men - only men in the mirrors and there is! Women of the mirrors are not suitable. A strong sex literally drills a hole, every millimeter of the added muscle fixing minutely and rather looking at the others: here I am a handsome man! Women are hard to pedal, push rod, crouch and run on ... Hey, beautiful, yet so much to be done: work, children, parents, husband, shopping, dinner ... And that nobody had the idea to accuse me of muzhenenavistnichestve, declare categorically: I love men! real men ! Strong, generous, intelligent, athletic, courageous and noble, with the shoulders on which to cry, lying across (and your feet do not hanging), with hands that fit not only my chest, but all I (with all its contrived challenges sores sometimes, oddity and caprice!) To me, a strong and successful, it was nice to feel in the hands of the weak and helpless. Not for long, so for a change.

Love was ... still love perhaps

2011-11-10T13:19:00.000+06:00

Real love - as the Far Eastern salmon that over thousands of miles, against a stormy course, is to spawn there, where he was born, to leave part of themselves there and then sink into oblivion: after sweet and die without any regrets, because life is no longer sense, is an empty and void. The fact that we have called love, more like a vulgar habit, which we boredom and embellishes with which deceive ourselves and each other, coming up with thousands of these same banal excuses. What to do? To live a boring. Ask anyone, whether he knew love and he does not hesitate to reply: "Oh, yes." Meanwhile, understanding love each his own. For one - it's exceptional and unique feeling, with the powerful movements of the soul and heart, in the first place. Platonic and the sublime. A similar forgiveness, loyalty, self-sacrifice. For another - rather move some parts of the body associated with sensual pleasure, and freedom from any obligation, convenient pastime.

Empirical. However, the first, second and piously believe in the authenticity of their high exceptional experiences. Modern, on the run, the interpretation of the concept of 'love' so erased, zamusoleno and diluted, neutered and neutered, so it became a practical and "hand" that reminds me a long time something between "go to the unloved work - in fact need to make money" and "start a family - because that makes everything." With all the more romantic rhetoric - after all, bon ton requires - that love is not alien to us. I must admit, sad and often almost unbearable from the joyful ease with which modern man juggling with this concept in its modern, practical discretion, mixing in it all that is indirectly related to it. Or in general, has nothing to do. I do not believe that just recently, there in the dim-witted youth, "and the grass was greener and the sky bluer." And does not belong to those who are around is the enemy of modern achievements in the "war"-between the sexes. But here's the closer I look at that, untimely clumsy love, at a time "when the sex was not" so irreconcilable become in relation to our times when it seems, there are only something resembling love, but that it is not long . In general, any hasty relationship with a beautiful label... Modern Love - as a modern woman on pornokartinke: lost all mystery and romance, with the undoubted availability of sensual pleasure. Market-purchased coating business for an attractive price. Lost shame, no use to anyone sincerity. But got crafty dissimulation. Lost its rustic and sincere person and soul. But got a delicious-looking and cool to the touch back. At once simple and clear concept of love is now investing so much. So much of the surface and completely unnecessary in all: material wealth, residence, car, house. To a blonde, so as not to have children. To height, weight, dimensions. To oligarch or lived in Europe. To that, so ... Well, the last - there is something about love, to the load. So many things that have an army of healthy men and women, still capable of feeling, felt a certain inferiority due to the lack of one or the other. Even modern, smart, wonderful and, worst of all - women, almost all infected with this leprosy. No, they have both hands and all parts of the body for love - and how? And even recall something about there tenderness , kindness and kinship, but as a rule, after "residence, villas, cars." Or after a number of other, more empirical claims, such as "height, weight, eye color." A relationship will build on the foundation already in the new drawings and plans, their contemporary material meryaya meter. And we're all ears in this love. And those who object, is puzzled and denied - as a rule, has long been an integral part thereof. Because perturb the situation of things can be mainly those who have noticed the difference, and one she does not meet - in modern terms. Note in the direction such that only recently familiar concepts as conscience, honor and integrity, or replacing them with material prosperity and comfort, and love of the King was deposed as a concubine, which in this case left no name, but changed their duties. Modern Love - no longer a queen. She - odalisque in royal brocade. Judging by the discussions on the internet, love has become something of an object interior of modern man. Without which a few uncomfortable. Uncomfortable. Sometimes inappropriate. The fact that the body and asks what moves society. But that is rarely asked about the living soul and restless heart than pray. There are some things not so long ago and gave a kiss. Something for which die, never even kissed ... Sometimes love breaks. And then, there, advice on repair - when the wife left him, and threw her husband - practical and effective, as the repair of motor vehicle: to take the key to the twelve, and "start a new love (yeah, like hamsters, after the previous one was dead), make an old love (call Lyuda, it dried up on you), do not start none, and live happily. " Practicality and rationality in approaches to love touches. Haste and cheek confusing. Pettiness and superficiality of irritating. Our time is fine, not only in terms of culture and art, as is often said. Not only is poverty a moral, moral and spiritual sense. It also sparingly, and for love. It feels like we are in bold oil spill spreads over the surface of life, sliding in all directions, at all corners wherever we can. Just not in depth. Love of many. But shallow. In different ways. But in a hurry. And we love it? Leave all generations "who did not have sex." "That did not give a kiss and without love." Those who are "nothing but death and separates." Being replaced by new generations will come to about sex and relationships will be free to know everything. And even more. And maybe the New Testament as the paradox of "the weakness of your - and your power", a mystery remains as to understand more in love those who love something, by modern standards , and could not.

What do men want?

2011-11-08T21:11:00.000+06:00

Men dream of a happy marriage and not less romantic personages of romance novels or modern-pragmatic organizer of the home. Draw in your mind all sorts of female characters - one better than another! And nobody wants to continuous commodity-money relations in the family (marriage of convenience) - all dream of love . Dream ... and in no hurry to marry. And all because of the beautiful female images in the minds of men often do not correspond to the realities of life: women - rather unpleasant creatures. Why some women are so drawn to poets and artists? By singing about love? Women are drawn to beautiful images? That's it! They are drawn to beautiful images, but we men dream about her - the beautiful women ...

which is not in the world. Those ladies who are, we are giving to understand that there have various strange desires - and what they fancy, the easier it is to charm, captivate a woman and drag her to bed. To have a steady sex, we need to talk to women, both before and after ejaculation, to pretend that we are interested in their opinions. Women think that men find them a mystery that there are men's sexual fantasies, and try to hit the male imagination ... gossip among themselves about male taciturnity, unaware that the men are silent only because they are honest with them. Home men's fantasy: to make "it" rough , fast, and so more it will never meet. That part of the male population who feel that they have litsedeystvovat out of a desire to get access to the "cherished" women's sites, not consciously attract sponsors - they have their own truth in life. They live by the fact that women do not give them an alternative. Debilitating or pretense, or masturbation. Others are seriously believe that luck in choosing your partner is like winning a million. Come, win! .. Not far from it! That and digging guys, that's looking-looking at-probe-purchased ... A successful marriage - a married life without divorce. A divorce - this is man's defeat. It's no good men to be beaten in my life! That's why they claim to his future wife fully justified: A woman in the first place, really should be able to cook . No tricks in the form of romantic trips to the coffee shop or restaurant will not help - romance in the "range" should be on the home desktop. Woman does not know how to cook? Let the student! And until then, until it learns to please a man healthy and delicious food. Second, it must be economical and housewifely. Do not "run" through the endless studies and seminars on all sorts of workouts, not to worry frantically about his "personal growth", and more at home - to monitor the household . house. Thirdly, the important duty of women - child care. Children should be well-groomed, well fed and healthy. And it must make a woman. Let the right (before marriage) knows this and is preparing for motherhood. Finally, the man during sex can only think about sex, or distracting thoughts will do their dirty work - no man in love is hard and determined. Knows about this woman must take care in advance - it must be attractive and sexual . Do not look, but to be. And, at least, before the advent of man. All of these simple and affordable for women men's demands were not distinguished by the novelty and originality. "Differ" only women who do not want to be good wives. Because men and dream of a successful marriage.

How to Attract Love into your life?

2011-10-29T11:15:00.000+06:00

We all speak so often about love, dream about it and argue for what it. Sometimes we think that it is not enough and something passes by us. Probably, it is: after all, love - this is one of the strongest emotions felt by the people. And no matter how it is simple and obvious, remember and carry through life, we just those sweet moments of happiness, when we breath away from love. Emotions themselves can be caused by nature, a child, loved one or a noble act quite unfamiliar to us humans. But is that all these factors together - the feeling of complete happiness and love to the world. So why do we so desperately lacking this most basic of human love , which fills us inside? The answer is very simple, and it is already contained in the question.

We are desperately waiting come what someone (maybe it will be a handsome prince or a woman's dream) and we will open the road to love, in joy, in happiness. That someone will rescue us from the monotony of everyday life, loneliness and sadness. Sometimes it happens, but for some reason quite a while. Typically, the romantic period and love quickly ends, and again - hello, gray days. The first thing to understand and accept once and for all: this is someone who will come and save you - is you!

Nowadays, many available books, articles, information on the topic that we radiate, then we get! World - it's just our mirror. Look around you, and understand in a way that lives inside you. I really like the phrase: we have something that themselves fitting. If you are able to radiate love , give it to others and the world, the world will respond in kind. Law boomerang has not been canceled. That is why when two people meet and try to play at love, it does not work. Neither is any other it actually is not. There is love, passion, hope, and pictures, but not love.

Tip:

Begin to give love to others and just see what will happen. Second. We get what we truly are ready to offer to others. Help others find love. Sometimes they just need advice or information, and sometimes support and sometimes just flat keys for a while. What exactly - it is not important, but if you help your friend or girlfriend in finding love, the world begins to help you, too. There is one caveat: to help a friend of the same sex. A woman helps a woman man to man.

Tip:

Think about what you can share in matters of love. And someone close to you now, it might be useful. The third. We need to create an image of a loved one. This is not to write in a column 50 qualities that should have a future partner. I'm talking about the need to understand what men and women, you are well , and saturate yourself with this. If you like a man or a woman, even if it is not free, or let it be the seller in the store - keep in touch with him, be a little longer in its field. Feel what attracted you to this man. Charm, humility, inner strength, sincerity, energy, manners? Remember this state and put these into an image of his partner. You seem to compose energy matrix of a future partner. Sometimes you can wait for the opening. For example: all my life you thought that you like brutal, and hard man, but then you are surprised to discover that you are good with an attentive and quiet man. Or vice versa: you've always wanted to write you a poem, but really turns you on, when a man, not even asking for your desire , solves all of you, and in Him is no romanticism.

Tip:

Be open to different experiences and communication. Believe me, you will find many surprises. The fourth. Surround yourself with people who love, who is happy in his life. Our environment enormously affects our lives and our state. Therefore, people instinctively reach for a successful and happy people. Through communication with them as if they are key to this state. Our environment can be compared with how we act in the place. How do you feel on the beach at sunset or in the center of the city at rush hour? Catch the difference?

Tip:

Create an environment in which you can live as if in the sun, filling it with sunshine. And, of course, do not forget to share this same inner light of your love! Love and give love - this is the most valuable thing we can do for each other. Just like her mother - the most that she can give your child - it was her unconditional love!

Love was ... still love perhaps?

2011-10-25T11:13:00.000+06:00

The Far Eastern salmon that over thousands of miles, against a stormy course, is to spawn there, where he was born, to leave part of themselves there and then sink into oblivion: after sweet and die without any regrets, because life is no longer sense, is an empty and void. The fact that we have called love, more like a vulgar habit, which we boredom and embellishes with which deceive ourselves and each other, coming up with thousands of these same banal excuses. What to do? To live a boring. Ask anyone, whether he knew love and he does not hesitate to reply: "Oh, yes." Meanwhile, understanding love each his own. For one - it's exceptional and unique feeling, with the powerful movements of the soul and heart, in the first place. Platonic and the sublime.

A similar forgiveness, loyalty, self-sacrifice. For another - rather move some parts of the body associated with sensual pleasure, and freedom from any obligation, convenient pastime. Empirical. However, the first, second and piously believe in the authenticity of their high exceptional experiences. Modern, on the run, the interpretation of the concept of 'love' so erased, zamusoleno and diluted, neutered and neutered, so it became a practical and "hand" that reminds me a long time something between "go to the unloved work - in fact need to make money" and "start a family - because that makes everything." With all the more romantic rhetoric - after all, bon ton requires - that love is not alien to us. I must admit, sad and often almost unbearable from the joyful ease with which modern man juggling with this concept in its modern, practical discretion, mixing in it all that is indirectly related to it. Or in general, has nothing to do. I do not believe that just recently, there in the dim-witted youth, "and the grass was greener and the sky bluer." And does not belong to those who are around is the enemy of modern achievements in the "war"-between the sexes. But here's the closer I look at that, untimely clumsy love, at a time "when the sex was not" so irreconcilable become in relation to our times when it seems, there are only something resembling love, but that it is not long . In general, any hasty relationship with a beautiful label love is ... Modern Love - as a modern woman on pornokartinke: lost all mystery and romance, with the undoubted availability of sensual pleasure. Market-purchased coating business for an attractive price. Lost shame, no use to anyone sincerity. But got crafty dissimulation. Lost its rustic and sincere person and soul. But got a delicious-looking and cool to the touch back. At once simple and clear concept of love is now investing so much. So much of the surface and completely unnecessary in all: material wealth, residence, car, house. To a blonde, so as not to have children. To height, weight, dimensions. To oligarch or lived in Europe. To that, so ... Well, the last - there is something about love, to the load. So many things that have an army of healthy men and women, still capable of feeling, felt a certain inferiority due to the lack of one or the other. Even modern, smart, wonderful and, worst of all - women, almost all infected with this leprosy. No, they have both hands and all parts of the body for love - and how? And even recall something about there tenderness , kindness and kinship, but as a rule, after "residence, villas, cars." Or after a number of other, more empirical claims, such as "height, weight, eye color." A relationship will build on the foundation already in the new drawings and plans, their contemporary material meryaya meter. And we're all ears in this love. And those who object, is puzzled and denied - as a rule, has long been an integral part thereof. Because perturb the situation of things can be mainly those who have noticed the difference, and one she does not meet - in modern terms. Note in the direction such that only recently familiar concepts as conscience, honor and integrity, or replacing them with material prosperity and comfort, and love of the King was deposed as a concubine, which in this case left no name, but changed their duties. Modern Love - no longer a queen. She - odalisque in royal brocade. Judging by the discussions on the internet, love has become something of an object interior of modern man. Without which a few uncomfortable. Uncomfortable. Sometimes inappropriate. The fact that the body and asks what moves society. But that is rarely asked about the living soul and restless heart than pray. There are some things not so long ago and gave a kiss. Something for which die, never even kissed ... Sometimes love breaks. And then, there, advice on repair - when the wife left him, and threw her husband - practical and effective, as the repair of motor vehicle: to take the key to the twelve, and "start a new love (yeah, like hamsters, after the previous one was dead), make an old love (call Lyuda, it dried up on you), do not start none, and live happily. " Practicality and rationality in approaches to love touches. Haste and cheek confusing. Pettiness and superficiality of irritating.

Women's Health - Glaucoma

2011-10-20T09:50:00.000+06:00

A disease which is the main manifestation of increased intraocular pressure. Glaucoma is divided into primary and secondary. Primary glaucoma usually develops in people older than 40-50 years. Secondary glaucoma occurs as a complication of another disease (iridocyclitis, lens subluxation, cavernous sinus thrombosis). Increased intraocular pressure due to a violation of intraocular fluid. In primary glaucoma violations outflow is iridocorneal angle where the filter zone eyes. Violation of intraocular fluid can occur as a result of the blockade of the iris root outflow tracts and developing spikes here. The cause of violations of the outflow is innate malformation filter zone eyes, as well as changes in the walls of the venous sinus of sclera. The disease can be caused by several factors, superimposed on one another. In secondary glaucoma cause disruption of intraocular fluid accumulation can be fluid, inflammatory processes or scarring in the eye. Increased intraocular pressure leads to disruption of blood vessels in the optic nerve. As a rule, high blood pressure affects both eyes. No treatment or inadequate leads to blindness, but timely medical measures vision persists for a long time.

Glaucoma is divided into 4 stages: primary, advanced, an advanced and terminal. In the early stages of glaucoma visual field is not changed. With a moderate narrowing of the visual field (up to 30-40 °) indicate an advanced stage, in patients with severe (up to 15 ° or more, at least in the same meridian) - on an advanced. Progression of disease leads to a decrease in vision, light perception, and then to a complete loss of visual function (end-stage glaucoma).

Given the clinical features of the disease are distinguished closure glaucoma and open-form, also can be a mixed form. The main symptoms of glaucoma are intraocular pressure increase and decrease in visual function. On examination, the fundus is defined pathological deepening of the optic nerve, which is combined with the appearance of defects of vision.

Angle-closure glaucoma, in addition to these symptoms, is characterized by a decrease in the space between the cornea and iris, corneal edema, therefore the patients complained of intermittent blurred vision, pain around the eye and temple, rainbow circles around lights. Zakrytoutolnaya glaucoma sometimes occurs in the form of acute attacks, which can be triggered by the expansion of the pupil. Intraocular pressure in some cases up to 80 mm Hg. of Art. Patients recorded a sharp pain in the eye and headache. The attack may be accompanied by nausea, vomiting, dizziness, slow pulse, pain in my heart. Vision falls sharply or even disappears for a few hours or days. The eye is very dense, vascular pattern reinforced. Pupil expanded in the form of a vertical oval. After an acute attack of glaucoma in iris atrophy are foci, sometimes there is clouding of the lens.

For open-angle glaucoma is characterized by a gradual disturbance of visual function, which is sick for a long time to notice. Violation of visual function in this form begins with a narrow field of view, most of the nose and increase the blind spot. Much later there is a violation of central vision.

Secondary glaucoma has many different forms. One of its manifestations may be so-called glaucoma crises that occur with advancing sharply increased intraocular pressure, and combined with symptoms of primary disease.

The leading role in the diagnosis of glaucoma, intraocular pressure measurement belongs - tonometry. Pressure that exceeds the point of 26 mmHg. of Art. when measuring tonometer Maklakova believe increased. If you suspect that glaucoma should perform repeated measurements of intraocular pressure at different times of day. In order to establish a form of glaucoma is necessary to explore the area iridescent corneal angle.

Treatment.

1. Drugs that enhance the outflow of ocular fluid.

2. Drugs to reduce the production of eye fluid.

3. Acute attack of glaucoma adrenaline and similar tools are contraindicated. In order to more rapid relief of an attack appoint diakarb, glycerol (glycerin mixture with the same amount of liquid into the rate of 1.5 g of glycerol per 1 kg of the patient). When severe pain is prescribed analgesics.

4. In the absence of the effect of conservative therapy, surgery is shown. If you use angle-closure glaucoma iris excision site - iridectomy, it is used for an acute attack. For congenital glaucoma is shown goniotomiya or goniopuncture - cut or puncture of tissue that covers the path of intraocular fluid by filtration zone eyes. With open-angle glaucoma or produce section cut through the inner or outer wall of the filter zone.

Women's Health - Varicose Veins

2011-10-18T09:47:00.000+06:00

A disease caused by the uneven increase in their lumen to form a diverticulum wall, the development of vascular tortuosity uzlopodobnoy and the failure of valves with obstruction of blood flow. Most often it occurs on the legs.

For the treatment of varicose veins following recommended agents: exercise "for the capillaries" (this replaces the health jogging and swimming), any exercises for the legs in the supine position, including these:

• stretch and relax the muscles of the thigh (10 times);
• move your feet back and forth: then the nose, then in the opposite direction (5-8 times);
• puffed out his stomach - inhale, draw - exhale in a slow rate (10 times);
• bend and straighten the toes (10 times) at a slow pace.

It is recommended several times a day and throw when tired feet above your head, you can do a headstand or "Birch" (stand on his shoulders).

On the day wear special stockings. Shoes to wear loose, so never pressed, especially the rise - there are superficial veins.

For flat shoes to invest in individual insoles. During sleep, you can lay a pillow under your feet, so they were raised to 20-30 cm

During the day, do not stand on my feet, where you can sit down and do not sit where you can lie down.

Varicose veins, and varicose ulcers recommended foot baths with alum and soda (recipe A. Zalmanov): soda - 200 g alum - 70 g, water temperature - 38,5 ° C. Every day for 15 minutes until the therapeutic effect. After a bath legs well rubbed undiluted apple cider vinegar or lemon juice, then put on the places where the veins dilated, honey cakes: flour and honey and mix with powdered sugar, roll out on gauze, prepared in advance to fit square foot patient in two layers - on put one layer of "dough" and the second layer of gauze to cover it and then roll a rolling pin across a piece of gauze the size, then put the resulting cake was on foot, compress paper and cover with a thick layer of cotton wool, bandage. On the morning of this cake does not have to throw away (it can be used to cure). Foot rub apple cider vinegar and bandage elastic bandage.

Nutritional care for varicose veins. Excluded from the diet all salt and salty foods until they are cured, sweets, refined products, flour, canned food (any), smoked, alcohol or cigarettes. Salt should be replaced by "Sanasolom" (which can be bought in pharmacies), or sea salt or rock salt, or cooked gomassio (part 1 grind of sea salt mixed with 12 parts of linseed or sesame seed, sea salt and roast the seeds in a skillet and grind .) It is useful to the diet were foods rich in vitamins C, D, A, E, and trace elements - potassium, magnesium, calcium, phosphorus, iodine, zinc, and iron.

The soft tissues of our body needs potassium. Most potassium is contained in the honey and apple vinegar. Drink two teaspoons apple cider vinegar to 1 cup of water with honey to 4 cups a day. The same composition lubricate the skin.

Men- what do women want?

2011-09-24T13:08:00.000+06:00

I'm writing just for women. Because I am the woman herself. And teach men to be men - just not for me. But to me the other night approached my husband and asked him to write for men. Open them secret. What women want. I could not refuse him.

Therefore, man, I'll share with you a little secret.

In women - anyone - all three requirements. If you think it's flat, car and a fur coat - you are wrong. Everything is much easier and more affordable.

We women are very, very social and are dependent on communication. We do not understand why you are going underground or going fishing. Because natural for us to meet her friends and socialize.

Everything we do in life, ultimately has one goal - to feel closeness with other people. We really enjoy intimate conversations with friends, films about intimacy and love.

And we really want to feel you know in your heart. We call you and ask, "Where are you?" Several times a day. Not to control. And just to hear what you think of us. At least sometimes.

We live negative emotions , talking about them. So when we see you in serious condition, so you want to talk! (Though you always want it to be alone.) And we want when we can be difficult for you to talk to us. It is not easy, especially for you. After all, we all together - and the feelings and thoughts, and events. But if you remember that we just need to speak out and cry into your shoulder - maybe it will be easier.

We do not want tips, recipes, CV. We want you to have just listened to, hugged, and said:

"Little My, you sure it is very difficult. But I'm with you. And I love you. "

Yes, we want to hear all the time that you love us. For you, it's silly, but for us - it is necessary as air. We want to understand that today we are as close as yesterday. What do you still love us.

Thanks We, like you, want to feel valuable and necessary. It is important to understand that every cooked meal you accept with gratitude. What do you value a clean shirt each in his closet. What is important to you, our beauty and grooming.

We love compliments . Madly. After using them, we feel that you love us. What are you grateful to us and close. In this case it is very important to your compliments were diverse, aimed at our quality, and were sincere.

For example, I do not quite pleased when my husband says that breakfast is great. After all, he's great, but being here I? And you can even slightly offended - because he was not himself prepared. But if the husband says that I am the best cook in the world, I'm Ty.

Yes, we are able to melt away from one of your words. It's weird and stupid, but that we all, women. Security

We are incredibly vulnerable and sensitive. Even if outwardly, we build thick walls and shells, inside we have always lived a little fragile girl. And we very much want us to be cared for.

Sometimes we seem on the outside with armored tanks, and you think that your concern for us nowhere. But without it we lose our femininity and beauty. More than anything we dream of is to take care of us.

We think that this is easy - to shake hands when leaving the bus, hold doors, help with heavy bags, to meet late at night from work, listen to us in difficult times ... You might find it really difficult - especially the latter. But we like it. For this concern, we are ready to inspire you and worship.

Even more we want to stop working from dawn to dusk and begin to create at home. Create harmony in it, love the atmosphere. We want to be with our kids, cook you dinner stunning, home buying new curtains. That is our nature - we want to do and to be women.

And perhaps you think that not every woman wants. But look into her eyes and deep inside you're sure to see this little girl who likes to do so the world around them.

For a man who will allow us to do and do not work , we are ready to give up everything without a trace. That is our nature - to give.

We invest in a slightly different meaning words

Sorry, we do want to say that we are important senses. What we do not care. And when you say "Sorry," you usually have in mind - I do so I will not. And that is why you so hard to apologize, and to us - much easier. After all, we never have all the same.

Our "left" is, more often, your "right".

When we ask you a bunch of flowers or a fur coat, we just want to feel that we are still important to you. And that's why the most expensive gifts to us - those that feel the love. For example, the crafts of children from the kindergarten.

When we ask you whether you are, we mean that the very hungry. It would be great to eat right now.

When we say you are tired, it means that we ask for your help. Even if the request is not voiced directly.

So oddly arranged feminine nature, we have a lot of illogical and incomprehensible. But that is what you have and love. For the fact that we - women. And that we can melt your heart with her smile. It is we who illuminates the entire house-rays of love and create in him warmly. That's us you're looking to share their achievements and experience with us the joy and pride.

We love you and need you

We do not always know how to be women in difficult moments. We come irritable and moody. We depend on the phases of the moon, women's cycles and moods of others. We are volatile and unpredictable. And sometimes next to us is difficult and even unbearable.

Excuse us for it. We do not care what you feel. We just need - need to re - your strong man's shoulder, on which we can allow our inner little girl seemed to light.

The most important thing is that we love you. And without you we can not imagine their lives. You need us, like air and light.

How to pick up a guy? The rules of women's pick-up

2011-09-20T13:02:00.000+06:00

The Emancipation equalizer line between men and women in almost all spheres of life. These are the rules and seduction, which until recently used mainly by representatives of the stronger sex. Women's pickup is not much different from men. Its main goal - any way to seduce the object of desire, and then act on your choices: quit, make a friend / lover to marry him. However, the last stages to reach possible not all: the errors in behavior, signs of the elusive and ill-chosen clothes can easily scare the victim pickup. To avoid failure in seduction, it is necessary to adhere to certain rules.

1. Choice of clothing

Women love the ears and eyes of men. This postulate grandmother passed on their grandchildren for centuries. Therefore, for a guy to pay attention to you - and this is the first step of a successful "removal" - to dress appropriately. Sneakers and jeans fit only for those who like a little Miss Universe last year and has a fourth the size of the breast. If none of these criteria apply to you - pay attention to the high heels and dresses . This tandem is 90% of the warrants increased attention from the opposite sex.

2. Choosing accessories

Small details are at the wrong woman's wardrobe their selection can completely spoil the first impression. So a huge bag is not suitable for cocktail dress, a bust with the decorations can make a girl look like a Christmas tree. Therefore it is necessary to approach the critical choice of accessories: Use no more than two eye-catching things in the dress (for example, the belt and clutch), if your ears are open - wear earrings. It is worth paying attention to the hands - well-groomed nails and manicure talk about women's elegance and make a positive impression of the opposite sex.

3. Eye contact

If the outfit has worked in the restaurant and look at you a man with three neighboring tables, it was time to throw bait towards pleasing object: to establish eye contact and gave him a modest smile of Mona Lisa. If no one pays attention to you, you can enter in the field of view of men and meet his gaze. No need to dance and move provocatively in front of his eyes and drill. Gracefully enough to fix her hair, slowly put his foot on the leg. When the object turns around, you can easily portray indifference - it hurts self-esteem of the male, and he tries to redeem an attempt to meet.

4. Be sexy

To seduce a man desired, not required to wear a short skirt and a blouse with a huge cleavage. Parade of bare areas of the body is too early to reveal all your cards. Better to let the skirt is to the knee, but with a high slit on one leg, and let the blouse will be under the same mouth, but opens your shoulders. When you catch yourself to look like the man, make a discreet gesture to emphasize the sexual part of your image. For example, the lower hand on the thigh. The guy instinctively follow the motion of your hand and pay attention to what you are wearing. Such methods will make a man to fantasize on what's hidden under your clothes.

5. Emphasizes femininity

Long flowing hair has always been associated with femininity. In addition, this hairstyle allows you to recline your hair effectively turning the head, and playfully to wind a strand of a finger. However, femininity - is not only the appearance but also demeanor. If you want to show the man that you are a true lady , do not swear obscenities, vulgarities not saying do not drink the "male" drinks: beer and whiskey on the rocks can be changed to "Apple margarita" and "Cosmopolitan."

6. The internal state

Nonverbal cues - facial expressions, gestures, gait can be said about you a lot. Confident gait, straight posture, graceful movement, luminous eyes and a smile will create a good impression on you all around.

7. Communicating with a man

When speaking to a man try to listen carefully and show real interest in the topic of conversation, even if it loses the last of "Manchester United". Try to talk the same language as the object of desire, to use words from his vocabulary. During the conversation, "accidentally" touch his shoulder, arm or knee - this will show that other person you really like.

That gave the world a woman?

2011-09-18T10:54:00.002+06:00

Representatives of the stronger sex love to grumble at women and boast unparalleled acts for the benefit of mankind. And it's true: that women have made to the world as we know the great women scientists or inventors? So, without thinking, only Mary and Sophia Kovalevskaya Curie and remember. Although an impressive list, and invention - not some pie-there salads, clover, and quite a serious and necessary things.

Well, for example, an astrolabe. You know what this is? This is one of the oldest astronomical instruments to determine the position of the sun and planets. Of course, this is not a necessity, but it is the inventor of Hypatia (born in 370 AD) of Alexandria, still deserves a good word.

But the Queen of England, Anna took care of gamblers and in 1702 proposed the idea of betting on horse racing.

Young 20 year old widow Nicole Clicquot-Barbier did not fall into despair after the death of her husband and took up the invention of champagne .... Thus, the method of secondary fermentation in a sealed container that lady in 1797, created the famous champagne "Veuve Clicquot" . Incidentally, the pink champagne - also her handiwork.

When you remember the invention of the submarine, praising the genius of Leonardo da Vinci , do not forget an American Sarah Mather. It was she who in 1845 patented a periscope - one of the most important parts of any submarine.

And an American Margaret Knight in 1870, hit upon the idea to invent a machine to bond packages for milk. This vehicle has been successfully used to this day!

In 1907, a chemist, MI Pennington sent to the USDA description of the method of freezing food. When the invention was approved, it appeared that Mr. Pennington - does not lord and lady named Mary Indzhel.

Karl Benz, of course, the fellow who built the car. But then get behind the wheel of his creation did not dare. First ispytatelnitsey his "three-wheel motor carriage" became his wife Bertha. She boldly planted in the car children and went to visit his parents, who lived about 120 km. It happened in 1888. Incidentally, the theme of the machine: muffler invented American Dolores Jones in 1917 - apparently tired of hearing her soft too loud rumbling engine.

This fashionable nowadays, dishwasher, first appeared on the market in 1914 by Josephine Cochrane companies. It is a pity that her child was waiting for almost 40 years deserved recognition and popularity ...

In 1914, Mary Phelps Jacob invented and patented elastic bra, which replaced the troubling corset . Women finally were able to breathe normally.

American Alice Evans in 1917, made compulsory pasteurization of milk to prevent transmission of pathogens from patients with brucellosis in animals to humans.

Once Katherine Blodgett found that after repeated immersion lens in particular oily substance on it creates a thin film - literally in one molecule, not allowing light to reflect. Thus in 1938 appeared "The anti-glare" glass from which to make steel showcases, Lens, etc.

Secretary Betty Graham additionally moonlighted artist, she often had to paint the pictures bad strokes - a kind of "mistake", but in painting. Apparently tired of retyping text with mistakes, she thought, as it were as simple and easy to gloss over errors, slipped while typing? Betty took a jar of white distemper (this is such an ancient paint) brush and brought to work. Filled mistake has never been found! So observant secretary invented proofreader - all indispensable assistant typists.

The first microwave oven - Radarange, invented a woman named Jessie Cartwright. She then invented another computer and a washing machine, which was the precondition for the emergence of modern washing machines.

But our ladies were not born yesterday!

In 1873, the Russian woman Nadezhda Kozhin at the World Exhibition in Vienna, demonstrated the preparation of canned meat - and took in the Tver province deserved a medal.

Attention, men! High-octane gasoline for the Soviet national economy invented Anna Mezhlumova - Soviet chemist and just clever, or else we'd traveled so far to dangerous tarahtelkah.

A microbiologist by Sina Yermolyeva we now have antibiotics . Many copies of broken about their risk and security, but, anyway, medicine, antibiotics can not do without.

Alexander Glagolev-Arkadieva became the first Russian woman world-famous physicist, also received the right to hold teaching positions at the University. Scientific activities it conducted in the field of electromagnetism. It owns the discovery has proved the unity of light and electromagnetic waves, and the construction of a single scale of the waves (1926). Then, based on research over the past 25 years, Glagoleva-Arkadieva made a complete classification of the terminology and design of electromagnetic waves, breaking the scale into two parts: the low-frequency waves, radio waves, ultra-radio waves, infrared rays, light rays, ultraviolet rays, X rays, gamma rays.

Happiness. What is happiness?

2011-08-10T13:02:00.000+06:00

Single answer is difficult, because for every person, regardless of occupation, education, status, religion, color, concept of happiness is different.

The fact that one is the highest degree of joy , for another all the same. The fact that some of the throws in the euphoria, the other has no effect. But one thing is certain: all people on earth - men and women - experienced the sensation of flight of the soul more than once.

What is a woman's happiness? Some people mistakenly think that a woman happiness lies in three things: a husband and family, children, self-actualization. But it looks a little different than it seems at first glance.

In general, the idea of happiness is directly related to age. For a small child happy - this is my mother. Soon the happiness of the child - it's toys that are at the moment of interest. Later, the child's attention attracted by the book, chatting with classmates, which then displaces even communicate with her mother.

Then again, the notion of happiness for the individual changes, it starts to be associated with a degree, career, independence. Over time, the happiness of all is transformed into new forms.

There comes a time - and luck seems to face second half and children. All is good, but they feel if they are happy woman, with her husband, children, work? Unfortunately, not all and not always the case.

What's missing women? Strange paradox is observed in modern society: a woman is not burdened by enormous complexity of life, as once, modern women have the same rights as men, they are not depressed, compared with women of the past. In fact, in today's society women have all dreamed about women of the past.

However, modern woman continues to feel resentment, frustration, insecurity and self-doubt. The fact that all three components (husband, children, work) entails responsibility, challenges and often disappointment sea. Then this is just luck? It turns out that happiness is not related to the benefits that surround a woman. The woman should be something more.

When can we see a happy woman? In most cases, the woman is happy, her eyes glowing from the inside in the moments when her secret dreams fulfilled. Fulfillment of dreams - a moment when the inner thoughts and energy come in unison. A dream come true - is the embodiment of happiness.

So, everything that surrounds a woman - this is the constituent of the world, which, of course, cause its fun, but true happiness - is something other than external wealth.

Happiness - a state of harmony of man with the outside world. Happiness - a state to which you want to be able to tune .

Negative because you can find in all this process is quite simple. But attempts to find positive do not all of this complex exercise. It takes a desire and ability.

Happiness - is the ability to enjoy the here and now from what you see, you have, feel. A woman's happiness is living inside the woman

Hormonal imbalances in the female body

2011-08-09T13:03:00.005+06:00

Critical days can not so much upset a young female that a lack or a long delay periods. Clearly, if this is unwanted pregnancy, then - the alarm about a health problem. After all, a clear menstrual cycle - the first indicator of well-being of the female body. Alas, according to statistics, almost every second woman found similar failures. Menstrual irregularities in recent years are among the most common diseases in gynecology. The reasons of pathology can serve as avitaminosis, climate change, infectious diseases, surgical interventions. Disruptions of the menstrual cycle, especially in the age of 20, often associated with hormonal imbalance in the body. Sometimes the cause of arrhythmias can be stressful.

The body reacts to it, slowing down the reproduction deyatelnost.Nemalovazhnuyu role in the development of menstrual disorders has a genetic predisposition (for instance when ovarian dysfunction is revealed at the beginning of his mother, and then, as a rule, and daughter, genetically programmed).

Yet another factor influencing the development of the disease, the tendency of modern-girl lightly to reduce weight without achieving stable regulation of the cycle. Vegetarian diet affects the hormonal balance, causing changes in the periodicity of the cycle.

It must be remembered and that the dysfunction may be associated with more serious problems, such as ovarian cancer, infection, changes in uterine structure. Therefore, if symptoms indicating a violation of the menstrual cycle, you should contact your gynecologist.

Symptoms in this case are too scarce, or, conversely, heavy periods, and their irregularity. Duration of the normal menstrual cycle is 22-35 days. During this time in a woman's body is the formation, maturation and ovulation. Physiological duration of menstrual bleeding was 5-7 days.

Delayed menstruation is very often due to ovarian dysfunction, ie, hormonal transformations. Moreover, the dysfunction may be complicated by ovarian cysts. To determine whether the altered structure of the ovaries and the correct diagnosis, you need to do an ultrasound.

Is it easy to be corrected hormones? Differently. For example, in 18 years - yes. A doctor with hormonal shifts prescribe medications that contain the missing hormones that are picked individually. And in any case it is hoped that the monthly cycle and the hormones are normalized to age naturally.

And prietom if you have a hormonal imbalance you need to pay attention to your diet. Must be fully fed. Hormones in the ovaries are based on cholesterol levels. Therefore, meat, protein-fat food is needed at a young age - its scarcity adversely affects the productivity of the ovaries. In the period of the menstrual function in any case not to diet. It's not uncommon for long-term "fasting days" leading to anorexia nervosa. Exhausted girl inadequately evaluates himself, becomes picky for their own appearance and therefore does not accept food. Self-destructive behaviors ultimately leads to amenorrhea - the complete cessation of menstrual function. Today it is an actual problem.

In this case you should seek help not only to the gynecologist, and psychologist. Although it happens that some conversations are not enough. And you have to connect and only resuscitation with intravenous show young fragile creation of emergency. And then hormonal therapy is appointed for the resumption of menstrual function. It is the responsibility of the gynecologist, which takes into account the history: hereditary diseases, circulatory system problems, the presence of varicose veins. In no case can not pick up drugs at its discretion.

Go to a doctor's prescription and can connect to herbal medicine. For herbs, able to restore the monthly cycle are yarutka Field, St. John's wort, sweet-smelling rue, parsley seeds, valerian root and Elecampane.

And we must not remain passive. It is necessary to live a healthy life as possible to avoid severe stress and limit visits to the solarium, which also adversely affects the reproduction of ovarian hormones. Plus, nutrition, normalization of work and rest, exercise, effective treatment of common infectious and somatic diseases, admitted to removing the body of toxic compounds. All this combined can normalize the menstrual cycle and without hormone therapy

Who needs the equality of the sexes?

2011-07-15T13:01:00.000+06:00

Women strenuously demanding equity. Since feminists of the past is clear. Their demands were not only justified but necessary. For example, this seemingly simple question of ownership. In women, it was not. Once a woman married, her property automatically becomes the property of her husband. During the divorce she was not entitled to anything, even to children. There are limits on available career, there was no voting rights and so on.

So it's no surprise that there were feminists who even gave their lives (for example, in 1793, was executed Olympia de Gouges, author of the Declaration of the Rights of Woman and Citizen) require the provision of women rights and freedoms. Now the layout is somewhat different, and feminism, however, is thriving.

Women already have the right to vote, there are no restrictions on the profession. Moreover, many previously exclusively male domains women have achieved undeniable success, and sometimes even go to the top. Yet the demand for equality continues.

In some countries, comes to the absurd. Women are being sued for compliments, interested glances (while continuing to wear mini-skirts ), a proposal to pay the bill in cafes, filed off the bus at hand and so on. Such actions constitute an infringement of the principle of equality. Her husband, also expressed dissatisfaction with his wife tasteless dinner, is guilty of abusing a woman (by the way, my wife, my husband expressed his deep "federal" about, for example, a nail driven into the wall, not guilty of anything). And so on. Curious cases are numerous, but they are not seen as funny jokes, but as part of women's struggle for equality.

It seems a little more, and the men demand that they have learned to bear children - on the basis of the same provision of universal equality.

But here's an interesting question - who should benefit is overblown women's equality, which, moreover, coming down in a heap of social and political equality and equality of the sexes?

If the earlier woman, married, had a right to demand that her husband provided her a rock wall that protects the slightest draft of her and children, many women now rely only on themselves. They are quite successful at work, they have good incomes, they are themselves able to secure that coveted protection skvoznyachkov.

It seems, at first glance, all the chocolate. But if you look at the situation more closely, we find that women actually do this type of equality is not profitable. My husband is no longer obliged to provide for his family, and even more so - to give his wife the money "on the pins." Equality? Great! You have to - go earn and buy what you want.

In fact, this type of equality as it is now declared, is beneficial only for men. And not everyone, but only to those who do not want to take any responsibility.

This man , without any ideas of gender equality and knowing that such equality is unattainable if only because of physiological differences and the different roles within the family (the same bearing and raising children), continues to follow the traditions that set: a man - strong side woman - poor, therefore, the strong must protect the weak and provide him with the most favorable conditions and so on.

But he who does not want the responsibility, it is very convenient to hide behind slogans of equality. It does not have anyone to defend. Why? After all, equality! This means that a woman can protect herself. Child support in the event of divorce ? What next! Gave birth to itself, let itself and contains. Equality! You can be quietly and safely Alphonse sit on the neck of his wife. Why? After all, equality, and she has a good salary. And so on.

So women which promote universal equality should ponder: and who need it? Is this really what they want? Or it is about respect on the part of men that the women listened to the opinion, after all, that the man has finally learned how to understand women. But this equality has nothing to do.

Where to look for the second half?

2011-07-14T13:04:00.001+06:00

House begins with a threshold, and the relationship between a man and a woman - the first dating.

Every free man wants to meet your soul mate , so much so that afterwards there was excruciatingly painful parting from, even opposite - that waited ahead of a long and happy relationship.

There are several places or if you want the time-tested and seeking ways to find a partner: online, on vacation with friends at the club, at work, "according to a relative," with ads in the newspaper. Let us briefly discuss each of the methods.

Search the Web

Pros: Sit yourself at home and choose a partner by clicking the mouse on the profiles, as they say, the taste and color. At home you at ease and can talk without embarrassment about different topics. Another plus of online dating - relationships easily break if you are tired.

Cons: virtual communication is good, and live better. And not every online dating can turn into a serious relationship, often even before a personal meeting is not reached. It plays a significant role inferiority complex - people are afraid when they meet seem not as they themselves have depicted. Moreover - for the beautiful pictures can disappear completely different person, different age and even sex! And, you can stumble upon fraud, all maniacs and perverts. That's when the guard! Conclusion: The method is good, but rather as a supplementary rather than primary. Come out, 'man' in people!

On vacation

The resort, sea, beach ... So you want romance and love! And, as a rule, and there is more than that, and more. No wonder, because many do not go simply to relax, but also in search of amorous adventures. That is to say, combining business with pleasure. However, holiday romance has a nasty tendency to end with the holiday. And then - like ships at sea. But every rule there are exceptions - and suddenly you're lucky and you get to rest is not only pleasant memories, but also a bonus - a loved one for life?

Among friends

Psychologists say that this is the best way. It is understandable - a company of friends, relaxed atmosphere, love you, and you all too, the joy of meeting and socializing ... And, as a matter of you know, that guy or the girl you are very pretty even, and it turns out - your feelings are mutual. Again, relaxed atmosphere helps you to further rapprochement.

... But in every ointment fly in the ointment there. The so-called professional matchmakers do not really approve of such a search, saying that a percentage of what the right time in the company would be the right person - very, very small, better use our services. What can I object? Matchmakers, or owners of the agencies have considerable income from pimping. In addition, the role of the agency can successfully execute friends - purely "by chance" candidates are invited to a party to explore, in advance, of course, noting to whom should pay close attention.

The club

Club - a common place for dating. In the clubs going to the young troops - dance till you drop, alcohol. According to statistics, club dating the most short-lived. Why? Well, probably it again in his youth. The young live fast, so little love affair - his destiny. Vague memories of the morning spent night, unfamiliar person nearby - and that's what you already hurrying away, scoring the number of casual acquaintance his phone. Perhaps you have phoned one day, who knows ...

Another thing is when you slightly over 25 (plus or minus 50). What should I do? Go to the club "who are over 30." As a rule, visitors to these institutions - took place in the lives of people, they want stability in everything, including love.

At work

Oh, no easy matter - to "catch" someone at work. Collective well-established, all got used to each other and become boring. What were dating? But if there was a new employee, or did you come to a new team. You make friends with the man. Communicate, at first purely for work, then the chance is that you like the same movie, you will both enjoy tea with eight spoons of sugar in a cup, walking in the rain, yoga, etc. etc. And there you are together. idyll ! But the polls loving couples found that the last thing they want to work together. Draw conclusions, ladies and gentlemen.

Oil painting - you're a good smart people, like the whole world, and the world loves you, but, alas, you are alone. And relatives, wanting to help you, looking through a friend at work, by country, by the entrance, and God knows where else, you pair. Stupid? Perhaps, however, many cases where it works. But, in the opinion of many, it is just too extreme and terribly out-of-date way.

Advertisements in the newspaper

Now ascertained decline of newspaper ads dating, the cause is great and terrible internet. Indeed, it is easier to place the questionnaire on any dating site - it's that simple. However, newspaper ads - a classic, time-tested.

All methods of finding half good. Perhaps you'll meet him (her) in traffic, subway, shops or another, there is little suitable for dating site.

Be bold, and all you get! The main thing - do not despair: there are always people who waited all my life, maybe it was you.

A strong-willed person?

2011-07-14T13:01:00.001+06:00

Many of us have thoughts of such an important attribute of any successful person, as a developed willpower.

And from time to time we begin to work on it, but, alas, with mixed results: sometimes something planned it turns out, sometimes not. What does it depend? "From the fact that people not trying" - many would say. And will not be right.

A person can not try a little, if moving in that direction, which is important for him. There is nothing stronger domestic demand in achieving the goal , that is, when the result needs to man himself, not his surroundings. When he realizes, and often simply feels that by achieving our goals, it is better to reveal its potential and significantly improve their quality of life.
This knowledge is a powerful stimulus to the challenges. Then the constraints are no longer obstacles, and do not cover the anguish at the thought of a long, tedious and laborious work, which may someday lead to achieving his goal. Captures not only the result but also the process to achieve it, because even small steps in the right direction can do what you want more than anything else. So, for example, a born businessman interested in developing a business, man, enthusiastic garden, vegetable garden, not a burden always something to seat next, weed, fertilize, and so on.

So, to be strong-willed person , one must, above all, to find the cause that would be of most interest to you specifically. Or, as Confucius puts it precisely: "Find yourself something to do - and you do not have to work a single day." This is true, to work, in terms of hard and tedious work hard, do not have to: your coming from the heart of the interest he will push to make switch off the TV and sit down to work. But what's the TV, when so many interesting things to do!

But here's how to find it is the case in the shower? This question is more difficult. The answer to this may be buried under a mass of various false installations, censored, all sorts of fears. In this case, the best option might be to work with a qualified psychologist or psychotherapist . However, few of our fellow citizens dare to take this step: one for it may not have enough money, the other is not yet ready to disclose the soul to a stranger, a third lives in a small town where there is no suitable specialist.

Therefore propose that the first steps to make your own. Try to remember what you liked as a child. Feelings of the child the most truthful, for all sorts of bans have not been able to act on it in full.

And if you do not remember, listen to yourself today. We always get some information: on television, in books and magazines, from the conversations of others. What is stopping sight? What in all the stops with delight?

Something wrong? Then try to relax and imagine the following situation: you have the opportunity not to work, you will not care about hanging close, you can only think about themselves, about their desires and do what you want for you. What do you feel? What pulls you?

By the way, chances are you will not get a clear answer to your question like: "I want to be a pilot." Explanation will be somewhere in the field of sensations, it will be like a jigsaw puzzle of which has yet to add a picture that best suits your abilities.

For example, you feel the need to be in the audience adore communicate and meet new people, have a streak of organizational diversity and love. Now, consider what is the scope of activity, where you can implement these wishes.

Maybe think about organizing events, about working in PR or journalism ? Or think of something else. The main thing is to identify their tendencies and understand in what areas they may be useful. And then to overcome the fear of new and immerse the same in what ever wanted.

Then go away by themselves in the background are different things are empty, and you can easily opt out of senseless wandering through the Internet or endless conversations about nothing. And without any reminders zasyadete work

How to marry a Male?

2011-07-14T09:59:00.002+06:00

The dream of many, inspiring, maddening ambiguity of perspective and adventure for all. It does not come himself: the search can take anywhere from moments to life. Networking breaks horns, quick to shoot, capable of gore and bleated. How can catch this individual?

Bovids easy to find at the watering!

Habitat can be bars and similar establishments. Prigrevshis for a beer, he hides in anticipation of the female.

The recipe is simple seduction: a maximum of charm - a minimum of care. Victim behavior involves an animal. Bright, nothing hides wear, slight inebriation - and your partner. The risk of running into other hunters is high, but the victory is a dream worth having hair torn and broken fingernails. In the eyes of the male winner will always be in pole position.

Ambush

True goats are known in the business. Feel free to go to the sauna, pool, strip clubs: there is a chance to snatch a fortune . The identification mark - a wedding ring, protruding from his back trouser pocket. In order to provide a choice, it is better to settle in one of these institutions: the vigilance of a goat and rivals do not apply to staff. Hint for a concession friends can quickly get in touch and become a close friend of her future husband.

Exit from parents

The presence of her husband, a goat in that which is suitable to my mother - an excellent opportunity to clarify whether in the home of his son. Centuries of experience show that the chance to meet a child that is identical to the parent, with each generation grows exponentially. The shop, a pack of cigarettes and a note as soon as possible will bring to the desired.

Place in the network

The names of sites on the ears of the world. Selective collection of all sorts and kinds , requiring no special effort. Only actual meetings will return to the life of joy and extreme. To save time, better make appointments at home: in native walls true desires can not be concealed. It is worthwhile to stock up before meeting a friend, a policeman who would come tearing at the first signal.

Smoke in the stairwell

Stairwells kept miracles from his mother's humble kids to the venerable, whose eye is obscured, and the hands give blue. To draw attention enough to squat and to declare that his brother, it is easy to understand. Pivasik, cigarette, and maybe that will perform the role of pipes poappetitnee fakir.

If a suitable copy is found, it remains to maneuver on its production and domestication. Since the techniques are proven traps and pitfalls, then you should create a no-win situation: not to go out binge, stop to get a job, do not allow relaxation and well-dosed complaints and scandals. It is worth connecting to the education of close and distant relatives who become mothers of large families to move to the communal.

There should be no mercy, or goat-husband could become a man. What is fraught with unbearable consequence: need to leave the familiar role of anguished victims and take responsibility for their own lives.

What is needed to realize their goals?

2011-07-13T18:56:00.000+06:00

We can draw strength to realize their goals? What do we need to not get stuck halfway to the top? First, we need to get rid of all the old stuff, which sooner or later topple us back if we pull it like a backpack on his back. Therefore poshar'te to attics and basements of the self and pull out into the daylight from under the layer of dust all your limiting beliefs, attitudes, qualities, habits. They merely appear in our lives, and if noticeable, most likely, you forgot about it. Loving parents, a kindergarten teacher, a teacher at the school and the list goes on ... and our favorite radio and television were awarded us the set of "useful" stereotypes that get along well, live in our minds, but we already got used to them that not even aware of their presence.

Secondly, look at your life: what's inside - and outside it. If you do not have enough money, then your beliefs about the impossibility nehoroshesti wealth - right there. Similarly, we can examine other areas of life. We - the products of society, which grew up and live.And what we are told that surround us? It is impossible - it hurts, do something not because everything - you are bad. And the desire to be good for parents, significant people for us, we become like must, as it is, forgetting about his true talents, abilities and genuine manifestation of our soul. Like most - gray as asphalt.

Little by little, our beliefs grow in our habits . The habit of going to the unloved work, without trying to change something, after the habit of lying on the couch, drink beer, or to empty talk with a friend, a habit to postpone all on then. And to drift from day to day. But as they say, under a still stone even 72 port is not flowing. Acting usual methods, we get the same result.

So, gather all your "help gladly and happily living" habits, qualities, beliefs, thought patterns, shovel, rake out from under the mold of oblivion and time put in a large box. All collected? Boxing (mentally), tying it, write on it the words "See later" and send it, for example, on the ocean floor. It should be - going to get! Never too late to go back to your closet!

And now for a seat place new, diametrically opposite qualities, habits, views on life - they are and will be the internal resources, without which any progress is impossible. As Albert Einstein said: "It is impossible to solve the problem at the same level at which it originated. Need to rise above this problem to the next level. " In order to change what you do not like the fact that I want to, need to become a man, corresponding to what you want. It is unlikely that poorly washed unkempt girl attract the attention of a worthy gentleman.

Yes, but how to understand what these qualities, habits and beliefs do I need? Very simple. If you threw out, for example, the belief that money is given with great difficulty, replace it with conviction - the money comes easily, they are replenished from planned and unplanned sources, etc. If you're in my heart believed that no one likes you, work with the belief that your life is filled with love, etc.

How to deal with the character? Think about what should be the person who has reached the desired target you. What qualities have someone who already has something similar? What is its nature, knowledge, skills and habits? Make a list and start working on it - to change habits, gain knowledge, etc. And imagine that you already have all these qualities. Yes, every morning, just imagine that you have such a man.

So the job of clearing debris and arrangement of its interior space you have to do! And remember: You reap a habit - reap a character , reap character - reap a destiny.

Every man is endowed with extraordinary abilities, talents, and strength. Begin to use them, and you will succeed, because you created in the image and likeness of God!

Is it bad to be selfish?

2011-07-13T13:52:00.000+06:00

A selfish always treated disapprovingly. But it turns out that not all so simply and clearly. If the word "selfish" you considered the reproach of vanity, is to love yourself you just do not know how and can not even imagine how this fact can negatively affect your life.

Without going to extremes

There is a science - to love yourself. And it is good to capture it all. Then and only then can live in harmony with each other. So say psychologists. Taught by life itself.

Understand the science of self-love is very often hampered by misconceptions. While in captivity at the extremes, the love of self is seen as something obscene. If you are selfless, forgetting about themselves, to serve children, husband, friends and society - is taken for granted.

Many see before them only the two extremes: the first - be a bitch, the second - to sacrifice themselves. In fact, selfishness is perfectly combined with a love for others. Not only need to be confused with self-esteem narcissism.

Experience shows that selfish people tend to achieve much in life. With them interesting to talk to. Yes, and you probably have heard that people do not love themselves, can not love others. Therefore, if it so happens that to love yourself you can not, try to learn it.

Expert Advice: start with spell selfish

"I approve of myself!" - Repeat this phrase again to 400 per day for a month. Live with it. This spell will help displace the surface of consciousness that the whole film , which prevents you love yourself. This exercise has helped hundreds of people to change themselves and their lives. Try it! Much time it will not take, and the result will please you.

An example from the life of

Sing his praises, to convince himself that no person in the world sweeter, and so on - all these self-hypnosis seemed to me ridiculous and unnecessary before. But the meeting with old friend, whose behavior at the time of our youth seem to me rather strange, changed my opinion. ... About eight years ago, we worked with Olga on one large company. Olga - a good man, friendly, responsible. But apparently not very attractive. And that's an understatement. However, she has spared no money on fancy clothes and good makeup. And this despite the fact that the salary was not uh, how big, and in her care had a younger sister. Many of the employees laughed at it, they say, there could be no help. But Olga has continued to cherish yourself. And once it all just amazed, saying, "This morning I looked at myself in the mirror and thought, what am I still cute!".

Now in front of me stood an elegant , well-groomed woman who has achieved much in life. And the husband she loves and attentive, and the work that brings not only good money, but also enjoyable. And all this has made it his persistence and faith in yourself, love yourself. Is not it an example to follow?

Like myself

When we are happy with themselves, have the confidence that much to us on the shoulder. And it goes well.

A wise man has spoken wonderful idea: "Love yourself - the most wonderful love. It can last a lifetime .... "

Getting yourself to love

Women love transformed. Therefore, at least once a month let the hairdresser to fix your hair and makeup artist - your face. Make a professional manicure and pedicure. This will increase your self-esteem .

Do not forget to treat yourself to a gift. Not necessarily expensive. Any change would be nice. Lipstick, scarf, pin - small pleasures that have a positive effect on your mood.

Keep in mind that any change in the shape of rivet the attention of others. Change your style. No need to get used to people close to your appearance.

Catch yourself on men's views. From them you will be nicer and calmer. Having even a passing bit of male attention, she transformed internally and feels like a queen.

Find Your LOVE

2011-07-08T13:02:00.000+06:00

If you have not met yet with his other half, if you faithfully keep his huge unspent love for the one and only, and its all there and not? - Well-known magazine with great ratings, asked well-known psychologist, Professor Barbare Andzhelis.

What a wise woman said, should not delay the feelings of love with all the consequences for the future - and to believe that first you should love someone, and then we'll see. Background of these stereotypes track is not so difficult. In each of the known tale of a girl, just beautiful, and remains, what to expect of his Prince, or just loved the restriction.

And all the other "Sleeping Princess" and does have to fall in or something like that deperssiyu anabiosis to try to somehow sort out his personal life. I must say, even more accurately establish the fact that our lives are quite similar to the tale and the laws of the genre it does not apply.

In our time waiting for this kind of unjustified when there are so many online dating sites, big portals that successfully combine the two people and make them happy for life! So, my sad unbelieving friend, has opened a page with a name dating Lions and, after reading the very first posting, she wrote herself, and met a wonderful guy and after 3 months got married. Ah. That was long ago. They are wonderful little daughter for 3 years ..

How to maintain comfort and order?

2011-07-07T01:02:00.004+06:00

The nature with friends, the surge of new hobbies ... How many of you want to have time! And while there is still work and, in fact leave rarely last more than a month. How to do everything the same and to preserve order and comfort in the house? House management gurus recommend that follow the five simple rules that will help you become more efficient. And, incidentally, not only at home.

Rule number 1. Sort and get rid of the unnecessary!

Getting rid of rubbish and ordering the right things is essential not only external nature, but also inner peace. This means that the health and success in business, and just a happy family life.
Inspect your home. Find a place where you want to "rashlamlenie" . Dedicate 15-30 minutes a day in order to analyze one such corner. Zones of the biggest obstructions to devote more time, putting them in the end. Divide all things into groups: the "necessary", "rarely appropriate" and "unnecessary." Things from the first group, place within reach so that they were always on hand and did not require a long search. For rarely used items, highlight the appropriate place - so that they do not interfere, but could be found by all family members.

As for unnecessary things, the experts recommend dividing them into three parts: the "give", "throw" and "is not defined." Sorting unnecessary things, try to make a group of things, waiting for his fate, was the lesser. Japanese housewives recommend denote such a potentially unnecessary things special stickers - "red tags". Their presence requires to answer the questions: do the subject, if so, how much and whether it should be here? The fate of things should be resolved in a clearly defined period of time.

Rule number 2. Rationally use the space!

Rational location allows us to keep all the things and objects in close proximity to the work area and reduce travel, consuming a drop of a huge amount of time. Those Japanese who are famous internationally recognized management systems, it is recommended to use the principle of shared storage . Its essence is to keep things not by species, and for sharing. For example, it is best to dedicate one cabinet in the kitchen for everyday tableware (plates, cups, bowls, etc.), and the other for the holiday than to keep all the plates in the same place, wine glasses in another, etc. So open the lockers will have less.

Optimize your space by removing the seasonal and rarely used things on the vacated after "rashlamleniya 'lofts, shelves in the pantry. Use visualization, tagging shelves and boxes of different colors, markers, etc. Arrange in a bathroom and a small basket near your computer for fine dust.

List of references goes on, but the main thing here - your very individual approach. Do not be afraid to experiment!

Rule number 3. Blow a little every day!

Another key to successful home management is the principle of regularity. Click on each day for 15-20 minutes for general cleaning , Lay things out, wipe the dust, wipe the sink and stove. Let your whole family at night take some time to your home. Thus, you will free the weekend of grueling cleaning, time consuming communication with the rest of the family.

Teach yourself and your family, immediately clean up after themselves, put things in place. Put in places subject to constant contamination cloth or sponge and wipe the place immediately pollution. Encourage your family to wash immediately for a shoe. It takes a maximum of a minute or two, but save time for the general cleaning . And the house will be fresher, cleaner and more comfortable.

Rule number 4. Delegate and encourage!

To be involved in running the household for all household members. Discuss the family council, which works in principle, must be performed at home, and distribute responsibilities among family members, according to their load. For example, your child or husband, returning from school / work, it can buy the necessary products. If you are worried that will be purchased that something is not right, it should be a few times to make it together, paying attention to the highlights. The same applies to other cases.

Encourage households for the executed task with a kind word, a smile. Talk about how important it is that they do. Shows the value of their contribution to the creation of comfort in the house. Reward small gifts to each other and the whole family as a whole.

Remember that planning, motivation, organization and control - is also a job, and it must be considered. You can take on this role, and can charge anyone in the family. In general, Western experts in the field of home management, periodic exchange of duties, then each member of the family becomes more self-sufficient in domestic work and can not be immersed in the routine. But the deal, of course, you.

Rule number 5. Plan and supervise the implementation of plans!

Integral components of any management - a planning, control and accounting. Home management is not worse. What is subject to planning and what it takes to start?

Home affairs, finance (including purchases), preparation for holidays and festivities, menus and much more - all this should be planned. Today, consultants offer a variety of home economics sample household organizers, varying degrees of detail and complexity. You can then choose the most suitable option, or develop your own.

However, should start with the easiest. Independently or with family, make a list of household chores . Perhaps some of the cases will require that a number of successive actions, then they should drill. Divide all the works on permanent or recurring and one-time urgent tasks. Then, determine deadlines for each. Assign a "performer". Not worth all the hard tasks tied to a specific time. Leave space for creativity and freedom.

As a result, you should be able schedule household chores for a week with their distribution by days and dates and showing responsible for the execution . A list of things that should meet this week, but without being tied to a specific time. This schedule and will become the instrument by which you can control the execution of tasks.

Of course, the list of recommendations for effective and modern management of household chores is endless. Because there is no limit to perfection, is not it? And at the same time, management gurus argue that to improve - it is a prime enemy of efficiency. Especially in the early stages.

And what do you go home?

2011-07-06T13:04:00.001+06:00

The fact that my husband - a man of the world, it is a lot of time talking with people in show business, and he gave me a different dress just does not see, - she explained. - Once again, I do not remember that I was a smock, he raised his eyebrows in surprise and asked, "What are you wearing? Oh, God! Take off and not wear it if I never again! "

All couples who have a decent term relationships, faced with the fact that they begin to perceive each other as a close relative: share secrets, ideas, tell each other dreams, walk around the house in what used to .

This leads to the fact that the romance in a relationship is lost. He knows where in the house are her pads, she sees him every day in the same trenikah: "I'd rather be strolling through the house with a fig leaf than in those terrible pants! "An impossible if you have to live side by side with parents or have kids.

1. Down with the gown!

Gown - a bath accessory, wear it after a bath or shower, it is worn in the sauna, but not at home. There is a kind of robe, gowns as they are relevant in the morning for breakfast tete-a tete. If you put a dressing gown in the evening - it looks like a frank appeal to the bedroom.

2. No worn things!

How often: "This is terrible T-shirts to go out there on the street but at home it is possible to wear it" - reflects an economical housewife . Wait, but if the street you are afraid to show it, then why are not afraid to show it the most expensive thing a person who you are - a spouse?

3. What is wrong with nudism?

Some partners are living apart and have not had time to have children, walk around the house, "in stark naked."

Pros: comfortable, nice leather breathes.

Cons: nudists get used to the sight of a naked body and stop to take a naked partner as a sexual object. Therefore, the desire to bring a spouse, you need to, oddly enough, just get dressed.

4. The choice of women

The main task of a woman - (pardon the tautology, but ...) to be feminine, sensitive, gentle, romantic, mysterious and fascinating.

So no matter what it is: a pretty dress, open mini-skirt , tunic or translucent good sitting on your trousers. The main thing that you feel in this attractive. Do not think that if you're doing household chores, you can "drop" their appearance to the level of housewife with curlers in her hair and frying pan in hand.

5. The destiny of men

For a man dressed in a home the main thing - comfort and cleanliness. You can be a poet in the family pants with polka dots or in a kilt, (someone like that), or a fan of "Spartacus" in the costume of their favorite team, or a plumber in denim overalls, wearing his naked body. But do not turn into a fat sweaty man with a brutal three-day stubble in shorts with patches from yesterday's beer, your favorite is not appreciated.

A better remember how you behaved on the first date as they were dressed, said that his spouse. Set aside all concern (in the form of a broken tap, dirty dishes and unprepared dinner) and go somewhere together, like before, imagine that this is your second visit. Maybe this will make you reconsider the usual course of your life and to improve something in your relationship.

Sex - through not want to - Refuse or accept?

2011-07-05T09:38:00.000+06:00

The family life and descended the global crisis. On the contrary - has exacerbated already existing problems. To sex it? But men need their own. Named his wife - shall perform the conjugal duty. What to do? Transcend themselves and give the husband or wife reject the proposal, explaining that neither the strength nor the desire to make love?

For physicians, sexologists, this problem is not new floors and long studied. Their accumulated experience and help make the right conclusions.

Unwanted intimacy

Scientists say that after five years of marriage, only 4 of 10 sexual encounters can truly be called desirable. Unwanted intimacy for a woman can become not only because of fatigue or physical discomfort. It's no secret that women - a subtle and emotional. Therefore, any trifle can affect desire. The men think very differently. For most of them sex - vital needs. Basic Instinct.

For women, mainly in marriage are good relationships in the family. For her critical attentions of her husband, sympathy. It turns her on and adjusts the sexual relationship. If a woman feels nothing like that, you have no desire to close. Spouse, in turn, considers this woman's whim, the desire to alter it by refusing sex. "War of the sexes" of this kind very often ends with the man on the side is the girls who are ready to easily meet his sexual fantasies.

It is not true that men only go on the aged and ugly wives. Their indifference and repels routine. Sense of neglect causes them to question their masculine strength and they are looking for women that will bring them former confidence and psychological comfort.

Why did his wife, who at the beginning of family life with pleasure making love, and now his wife pushing behavior in the arms of another woman?

Problems and sex

Sex has lost its former charm. Previously, he both brought much joy. By the mere thought of it sweet heart sank. Now, the passion has disappeared. All predictable and mundane: a shower, a book or a TV, comfortable bed, and "duty" and a kiss - back to back. Proprieties are observed all the familiar phrase: "There's something a headache."

The fact that women in marriage cools faster than men. The main reason - life, which mercilessly "kills" the romantic relationship. After one day need as much to get done, that the head does go around!

But men can not understand why women do not want to "relax" and enjoy at the end of the day. You can put anything you want, but not sex. Perhaps, in terms of men, it is true. And the female? Do I always have to give?

Four acquitted "no"

Unwanted proximity effect on the female body. Sex "I do not want a" has its negative consequences. List the four basic.

1. Forced sex can dull the senses. The woman no longer distinguish the real wishes of the displaced. Intimacy with spouse becomes boring, and thought about it - unpleasant. The result - a frustration, life, and depression.

2. Decreased libido. Making love to a woman becomes a duty. She tries to avoid it under any pretext. It is clear that she can have sex often, but want to do it - often. The result - frigidity. There is the belief that sex is only for men and women they need mainly as an object for sex.

3. Appear gynecological problems. If you have an orgasm, then the reproductive system works, and the woman is healthy. If not, then in the pelvic congestion occurs, and there are all kinds of gynecological diseases.

4. Woman loses appeal. In fact, after the desired proximity of the woman glows from within. According to her facial expression one can understand that she is happy. And if she makes herself to have sex, then it looks "dull". The mood is always depressed. There is a growing irritability, apathy appears to everything.

What should I do? What to do?

Sometimes it really should say "no." You can not have sex when there is no desire. However, if this state is delayed, it is necessary to take action. Try turning the imagination. Pofantaziruyte. After all, when ends in fantasy, sex becomes unwelcome.

And it is not necessarily making love an afterthought. All of the cases still can not be undone. It is better to pay more attention not things, and relationships. More often say to myself: "This is my favorite man. I loved him for many years.

How to bring back the joy of life?

2011-07-01T13:01:00.000+06:00

People with two different relationships to the world. His wife - the owner, takes a natural and expected business intelligence that are aiming for something in the economy is clearly needed. And what about the husband? His position - the position of "child" compared to "adult" and practical approach of his wife. The question "What is better?" Or "What is right?" Is not as simple as it might seem at first glance. Of course, if you give your child unlimited freedom, he would play from morning to night and eat some candy (which ends sadly).

But is certainly a winning position "adult", for which the food - it's just food for the body, and the main content of life - the so-called "work"? Moreover, under the "business" means not actually "matter" (which, with a capital letter) - the vocation and way of self-actualization - and not only work as a profession, necessary for obtaining all the pieces of bread, but also the sphere of everyday life - ie, the activity we are "forced" to do, organizing your living space.

But much of this work, not even to build the comfort and is dictated by social norms and conventions. "The good lady of the house clean" (read: "You want to be a good housekeeper?"). "The house should be - a full cup" (and it does not matter that none of the living no longer want to drink from this cup, because the exhausted, its filling).

Yes - a cow, of course, necessary. But is this the only requirement for us? Denying yourself in the Inner Child, do not impoverish their lives if we do not cut off the possibility of a happy - happy just the way it can be kids (as long as we do not have trained their "seriousness befitting")? Become adults, we are expanding our capabilities far in all areas, except perhaps one - the direct perception of the world, which opens the way to happiness from the experience of life.

But the "pruning" is overwhelmingly the scope of this robbing us, making our lives fresh and, in fact, terrible - in fact, if you think about it, or how terrible you will not name the gap between the grandeur of life as a gift and the ultimate insignificance of our life brainteasers. Meanwhile, it is not necessary to "maturity" and "childish" contradicted or interfere with each other. They can get along very well and even appear at the same time, when feeling the joy of life is the backdrop for any activity, including adult-thoughtful and competent performance of work.

Fortunately, in Russia there is still breed of people who have kept a sense of joy within themselves. Doubly fortunately, many of them live in an environment where they do not feel "eccentric" - because there is a norm. The province is still possible to hear phrases like: "Hey, Niurka bought a holiday!" No vodka, no snack - namely, the "holiday"! In the "civilized" world is made to buy "vodka" (or karaoke, which in this case does not matter) and be happy for a reason, but "in fact."

Try to walk down the street with a cheerful smile on his face, and above that - skipping a run . You will have to look at how an unusual phenomenon, a kind of miracle-Judaic. There can be no mockery ("That idiot!"), And suspicion - in fact all the unusual and incomprehensible is alarming. In our culture, decent and indecent to be grim fun, decent and indecent rude to say nice things.

Detachment and boredom are accustomed, we are ready for them internally - while a good word said for no reason, and because a truly honest, many causes defensive reactions of rejection. Difficult for us as a "squeeze" him and take from each other. Maybe it is something from us? As if we are afraid that by adopting, will be "obliged" to give themselves and that the response to a good attitude will deprive us of freedom, and set in dependence on the other.

How do I determine how beloved - my love?

2011-06-30T15:44:00.000+06:00

How much love? "How many people - so many answers. Everyone has their own love language: the language or the language of care gifts donated only language you time - or language assistance, the language of greedy sex, gentle touch, the language of admiring words and language of obedience. If you have a favorite saying in different languages of love, the strongest love can appear any, between you - the misunderstanding...

Everyone has their own signs of love - those markers and beacons that signal a person that he is - he loves. Someone says something about the power of love just by a set of attributes, but signs of love are no longer talking about the power of love, but about its scope and boundaries. Here it is - there is not. There was - there was over.

When asked about the power of love more women are looking for the answer in my heart and feelings: heart flutters next to him losing the will - my favorite. Men (if they are not only boys, but men) often respond to these questions and solutions business. Chose, determined, made the proposal, gave the word - keep my word and I'm proud that I love.

For some, it's simple: either love or hate, no middle ground. People with a more subtle emotional nuances and know the organization and the strength of feelings may find their peace of cooling, while others - and maintain internal combustion.

Those for whom love is love , because love is measured physical attraction to the beloved and the proportion of madness: the brain takes down - hence, love is strong. The power of love, passion estimated willingness to commit follies for the sake of a loved one, to throw everything at the feet of his beloved, which was expensive before. Not counting, of spending money. But if sanity is preserved (or restored) - love is not in force.

People perezhivatelnogo such power of love is measured by time and depth of suffering the loss of a loved one. The widow is crying - means love. For many, "I like or not" is determined simply by how painful to lose this man.

If it does not hurt - it is not a favorite, if painful - a favorite. Terribly painful - much loved ...

Specifically, it is not quite love. This is a pre-love, this need, this is - attached. How wisely wrote Vladimir Levy: "Love is measured by a measure of forgiveness, affection - the pain of farewell ..."

With the growth of the personality test "I like or not" is different. "Beloved" begins to mean: I am attentive to you, I'm talking to you, you are dear to me, for you I'm not hard to give up, I'm willing to forgive you that do not forgive others, I take care of you with joy. But at the same time, if something happens to you when you leave, I can not torture yourself ... If love was not mutual, then it makes no sense, and if you loved me, then you yourself always wanted me only happiness and dear to me then, that is dear to you.

But another man, he will spit on you, you will be swearing, yelling for him to blame you for everything. But if you and I will part - will suffer, suffer, he shot himself - he badly hurt.

Question: what kind of person you need? Which does nothing, but only after the scandals and tormented by guilt, or who cares for and loves to light? If you want it to torment and even when you're away, then the question is: why?

For adults who love - it's all the same care and attention when you are together, and do not torment after separation . People are activities such as the power of love is measured willingness to win, give gifts and carefully look after: to enjoy opportunities to take care of the beloved.

My wife takes care of - so loves. At night on the pavement there was an inscription: "Good morning, darling!" - Someone's not sleeping at night, to bring each letter to give to your favorite pleasure.

Love is measured not suffering and fear, and joy, and deeds. The care and attention, attraction to a man, and joy of being together, the desire to give and responsibility in liabilities - is the main axis, which Merritt power of love.

What is love: a favorite place (a favorite) on the scale of values

"I love you" - what are these words? "I love you, darling, but now football, soccer and dearer to me than you," "I love you, darling, but my child does not want us to meet, and I am writing you this letter of farewell ..."

However, even identify with the axis, we have not yet responded to the question - where is my or your love is on this axis? Each of us has his own hierarchy of values in life , and every love is in the hierarchy of the place. Any girl wondering what place it in the heart of a young man: If the above beer but below the mother - is insulting. If above all other women, but after the business - normally. Yes? No?

Ask questions about it - fine. First of all, it is important to ask these questions to himself as dear to me this man as a road in a literal sense? How much I'm ready (ready) to pay for the opportunity to be with him for the right to be his favorite (favorite), for him to be happy?

How about the question of life, noted MM Zhvanetsky: "A ride on a taxi - it is love. And went on the tram - no, not love, this passion. "

But the conversation about values, the willingness to pay - it's all the same conversation is not about money, it is a conversation about your hierarchy of values. To make this conversation more concrete, draw a vertical scale, where values of life arrange the following: the ideas and principles, his life's work, a favorite work, a country house, relatives, children, continue to write their own separate the three most expensive items of your property and the value of their capital. After this answer, which place a favorite among those values, above which and below which it is located.

At first, answer the questions easier: are you ready to lose some of his expensive things to a loved one was with you? Are all of these things pay for the opportunity to live with your beloved?

These are not theoretical but very practical questions: when and if your favorite break your favorite vase or a car, think about your decision today. Your battered Mercedes - a natural contribution for your right to kiss the woman he loves .

Now, in terms of money, imagine you like a girl, you have to look after her, but suddenly it becomes clear that she likes not only to you, and you offer more than this girl does not occur. You do not threaten, you are offered a sum. One hundred thousand dollars - you're a interesting young man, you're sure you will meet another girl, will not be worse. A promotion for your business you need the money, right? No? And if a million dollars - are real cases before? Thinking about?

Designate themselves the same amount - very useful: it was stripped at 10, is called the "annual fee" and remember. If you later sozdash family with this girl, then as long as its expenses (or your spending on it) fit into the annual fee, enjoy and enjoy. And after ten years of happiness you just learn to live together and all the extra problems will disappear.

Are you ready for a favorite to quit my job, to leave their town in nowhere, without the usual stay friends or leave parents?

Perhaps, for a random person you will not do this. And rightly so.

What we go? Three types of personality

2011-06-16T13:01:00.000+06:00

Ancient noticed that in the psyche of each of us can distinguish three components: cognitive, emotional and practical. On the correctness of their observations have already said that this scheme successfully use modern psychological practice. Naturally, in the psyche of every person present, all three components, but usually one predominates, determining a particular type of personality.

One of the options for three-component structure of personality well illustrated by the following anecdote "for seniors":

Enters the room and see the parents in their marital bed with the neighbor's Vovochku Tanya.

The first thought of Pope: "There is a growing son, became an adult at all."

Vovochka thought: "Well, now to the party will not start ..."

Mom thought: "How is she holding his legs, the boy is awkward!"

This story is interesting not so much the content of thoughts of characters as their way of thinking. Note: Dad immediately began to assess the situation, to build a logical chain, based on some of their inner views and attitudes. Vovochke does not seem too important for the mere fact that he was caught for indecent occupation. It takes a lot more upset because that will not be able to escape to chat with friends. Mother also assesses what is happening, but quite differently than his father. She immediately switched to the situation, paying attention to what is happening here and now, almost ready to take part in what's happening - to correct, suggest, as expected.

So, summary:

1) element of the father - reflections, withdrawal into oneself and the alignment of the internal circuitry of what is happening;

2) element of his son - communication, fun pastime: just that he is busy now, and intends to continue after;

3) element of the mother - an action in which she instantly turned on.

In fact, we see three different ways to interact with the world peculiar to three different types of personality. In practical psychology, these types are referred to as cognitive (thinking), communicative (emotional, interactive) and connotative (active, hands-on). Or thinker, Neutral, and practice.

In personality Thinker dominates the cognitive component. This means that the people of this type is more prone to speculative construction of structures and schemes, oriented to the logical ordering of the world picture. It is aimed more at the reflection on the events rather than actively participate in them or experience related sensations. Interaction for him - rather, it is the exchange of information. We can say that he aims to cognition of the external and internal peace. And not only knowledge, but also on the ordering, schematization, to build a clear, logical and coherent picture of the world. Surrounding sometimes appreciate people like a little "out of this world" this because of the fact that they are not very sociable, self-absorbed, that seemingly gives the impression of closure.

The interviewee is living a much more intense emotional life. Its basic content - contacts with people with whom he can easily find common language and establishes emotional contact. Usually it is more superficial than other types. Its conformal (propensity to obey a common standard) and adaptabelnost (ie, adaptability) - from the tendency to avoid traumatizing experience for yourself. The main thing for him - easy pleasure of communicating. It is called the soul of the company, and in the absence of friends (and he has a lot of them, and all he considers friends) suffers and pines.

Practitioner-oriented action to address the problems (which he may himself had set). In the joke the first impulse of the mother - to join in the situation, not penetrating, not to prevent, namely, to participate, help organize it. By the way, organizational skills are often the hallmark of a practical type of person.

Naturally, each of us has traits common to all three types. Our very psyche of a three-component and includes both cognitive (aimed at the rational knowledge of the world) and affective (sensory and intuitive knowledge, emotional connection to the world) and practical (active impact on the world) components. Just one of these components are usually dominant, and typical for his scheme of action is manifested earlier and brighter than others, as presented in our history.

However, the personality, in which the various components as possible, balanced, more harmonious and better suited to life. Then, in different situations "steps forward" on time "takes control" is the component that is best able to cope with it. But even in the apparent misalignment in either direction all of the components, of course, there are also manifest themselves situationally.

We return to the joke and try to imagine how events might develop further.

Father's house parent can take a more proactive stance, activating a practical component. If you have sex - it means, probably, and drinks and smokes ... It means that something must be done. flog! and pull the belt.

In Vovochka come to the fore thinking component, in connection with which the young man plunged into the abyss of self-flagellation. Why have I brought her now, because he knew that his parents are about to arrive. Now start tediousness, dripping on the brain. But the "ancestors" will see that I grew up, and stop treating me like a baby! The Thinker, by the way, is able to consider the situation from all sides, turning over all sorts of colors, up to cycling on their own imaginations. This often prevents a person from this type finally solve the problem, despite its seemingly detailed well conceived. However, if the pope really get down to the belt, Vovochka immediately shake thoughtfulness and activates the "active" component, fleeing.

The mother may well switch to the position of the interlocutor, feeling proud of his son and looking forward to how this story will tell her friends at work. Of course, outwardly it looks like the oppressed, to grasp at heart, and lament the lack of discipline the younger generation. But this is not important to the interlocutor, it is important to communicate itself and the accompanying rush of emotions - and what they are diversified, the better. So a woman may even vsplaknet - however, not feeling particularly unhappy with this. The fact that the basis for all these flutter is always the general emotional excitement, realized it was in the process of communication.

So, we're talking about a person as a representative of one of three types by the predominance had one of these components. However, to repeat, in each of us has all three components. And it is not surprising, as in life, we need a one, then other qualities. Consequently, the pronounced tilt in any direction is a common, but a significant limitation for the individual. And from this point of view it makes sense to seek harmonization of personality, is rapidly developing the component for which there is an obvious gap.

What we go? Three types of body

2011-06-15T13:03:00.002+06:00

You ever noticed that people are similar in appearance and often show similarities between the characters ? It is no coincidence, nor is it accidental that psychology studies not only the spiritual world of man, but his body. Factors linking the body structure with the structure of personality, lots. Touch upon only one essential and basic: the type of physique.

Among the people around us can quite clearly distinguish the total, lean and strong. Physicians and psychologists, not philosophizing, took as the basis of classification is the same division. Although the typology of different authors body types may have different names, are they often boils down to three basic.
This type:

1) asthenia;

2) pyknic;

3) athletic.

Let's try to very briefly describe them.

1. Asthenics usually not characterized by high energy, stamina and strength. He is thin, and no amount of sticking out at the gym, hardly able to pump up the muscle volume. Even a very strong man of asthenic warehouse still not muscular, but lean and sinewy. Dry skin, reduced hormonal and, unfortunately, early wrinkles - a harsh reality! But "spoil the figure" is almost unreal, about these people no wonder they say "not in the horse feed."

Dear leaders, teachers and other chiefs of note: many asthenics have low vitality, tire quickly, work in the "storm and stress" for them - a luxury. Like the luxury of human communication. " To public office in a big noisy room, this silent, closed, quickly tiring people risks undermining your health!

But knowing their weaknesses, a man of this type can learn to plan, gain high self-control. Other things being equal, it asthenics most likely will not spend time talking with colleagues and let things take their course. Learned? Of course, this is our old friend - " Thinker ". Indeed, the classification of body types well "imposed" on other typologies, and often brilliant representatives of asthenic type and peculiar features of the "Thinker."

2. A typical outing is not only a full and not so much because of the large amount of adipose tissue (in athletics her plump no less) - Rights pyknic body distinguished by the presence of "large internal cavities. And besides, most of the picnic differ alive and cheerful disposition, pronounced emotional and energetic. Remember the type of "interlocutor"? That outing is most often a "companion".

Life for the people of this type is concentrated mainly in the emotional-communicative sphere. Energy has more than enough, but to pore over the papers they are bored, and especially to kill, "to burn on the work of" these people are focused on pleasure, not inclined. Here they are, tireless volunteers, the ubiquitous "Shura of accounting, cheerful organizers donnybrook.

The figure is certainly not a model ... But is it worth to suffer on this occasion, if the resilient nature of light, Spouting energy make pyknic "pyshechek" very attractive to men . Plus beautiful leather, fresh glow ... Although stuff is, of course, do not! Picnics are inclined to, say, exacerbate the nature of this build. Still, you see, "sturdily built young lady" - is one thing we can say a gift of nature, but the "blurred babischa" - very different, and no one to blame but itself.

3. If the above two types were the opposite, "skinny-fat", "thinking-emotional", the third type, athletic, can be called "acting" ...

And not in vain athletic differs the most developed muscle structure - it was the muscles responsible for movement, development, aggression in the broadest sense. Ability to exercise physical force, aggressive movement corresponds to the same ability in the psychological sphere. Strength and energy is also manifested in the most ordinary movements of athletics: his gait , his gestures. Picnic also takes energy, and even some - but his movements softer and smoother. By the way, picnics are by nature very plastic, often causing surprise others: how, with such a physique, and so moving! But the "external" and "internal" reflect each other - and the internal, psychological mobility "emotional communicator" picnic can only envy!

But asthenics with traffic, sports, dance, "not friendly". In this case, "asthenics-thinker" can successfully learn complex movements, but will they more or less mechanistic, producing the impression of artificial, non-plastics. Asthenics movements will not always miss the spontaneity - as the inner scheme "thinker."

A lot of vivid examples of types of body can be found in literature, cinema, theater ... For example, among the images of famous detectives can easily find well-read by representatives of two types. Why the two - I will explain later.

Pronounced asthenics - Kamensky. Thin, gets tired quickly - it always is not enough strength and energy ... However, there is a caveat - high growth, while in the "classical" descriptions astenichek featured women "lean and short, early aging." However, in our time is very common this type of women asthenics. Yes, and especially premature aging is not observed. What can you do, times are changing and with them the people change.

Closer to the asthenic type, and the greatest detective of all time Sherlock Holmes, featuring a highly developed "cognitive" component.

Detective Athletic - Sledzh Hammer of the series "Sledgehammer", one hundred percent, "a man of action." Meditate? Well, thank you! Emotions? Not to them! What are his expression: "Do not Hammer Sledzha subconscious," and "Believe me: I know what I'm doing!"

Thus detective asthenics usually withdrawn "thinkers," skein cunning crime. And attention is drawn to this feature: each of them has a proper method to calculate the offender, to build a scheme of his actions and to anticipate his actions.

Native same element of athletics - the action. Run, fight, catch - it is for them.

Here is an example of a picnic among the famous detectives, we have not been able to find. And no wonder: picnics often have communicative personality type. For him at the forefront of interpersonal, emotional interaction, and not "mind games" aimed at solving complex problems ("The Thinker"-asthenics) or hard drive for results ("Practice"-athletics).

Finally, we recall that any classification of conventional and real people do not always correspond with sufficient accuracy described in the textbooks of the "pure" types. In addition, the congenital type of constitution imposes a very serious impression path in life man ...

How to change your life?

2011-06-14T13:01:00.000+06:00

Each of us has ever dreamed of this - wanted to change their lives. Someone it turns out, someone is not very much. Why? It is possible that you put not very clear goals. Maybe you just did not want. However, if the next time you want to change something in your life, then the desire is still there.

What else is needed? First - do not put off until Monday! If you decide to change something and change, then start doing it now. And second - make a plan on which you will change your life. Here is a sample list that would change each of us.

1. Understand that you like.

What do you want to do in this life. Want to be a writer or a doctor, an artist or an economist. This is the first and most important point. But to understand what you want in life, you need to spend considerable time and energy. This is a marathon, and nobody knows how long he can continue.

2. Discard the bad things that are daily consumer choices.

If you're a Coke and chips, feel free to make this point in his plan. There are no secrets, no diets of celebrities - just a healthy and natural food! Stop spoiling your health. Refuse artificial food!

3. Promise yourself to learn three languages in three years.

Or more, or less. Okay, not three, at least one. This will expand your horizons. You will learn the history and customs of another country. This will change a lot in your life. You will understand that the world is much more interesting than it sounds. And that piqued your interest in life, give your thirst of knowledge.

4. Leave all the bad things in the past!

They say that without a past has no future. Nobody asks to abandon him. Enough to make the experience and forget the bad moments. Past - Future. Analyze your committed errors , write them in a notebook and do not recur.

5. Throw out old and unwanted things.

If you do not use any thing more than a year, you can safely dispose of it. Anyway, it you no longer useful. Clear space on rubbish .

6. Work out.

Not necessarily attend expensive gyms or swimming pools. Even the daily charge is enough to be on our toes. You can buy roller skates or a bicycle. You can just go out every night for a jog. That's all. You will be able in a few months to come to the vitality and positive energy.

7. Get a camera.

Can be very ordinary. You can use a mobile phone. Capture the beauty of this world. After many years you will remember his life not to muddy passages from memory, and for the colorful photos .

8. Do not waste time in vain.

Time - priceless. We have it and so little, and we spend it on unnecessary activities. Social networking seems so fit! View the news 5 times per hour ... Stupid. If something is really important about this will say everything. View the TV series that did not bring us any good ... Communicating with people who have nothing to learn ...

That is how we spend our time . Much more useful to read books, talk to people who have something to learn, spend time with his family. Appreciate your time! Do not waste it in vain. Try to live every moment to the benefit of themselves.

9. Teach yourself to get up early.

You will be able to do much more if get up on weekends at 8 hours, not 12. Man missing 6-8 hours of sleep to regain strength.

10. Start your journey.

Not necessarily to buy expensive trips to other countries. You can travel to their city, to explore all the interesting places , learn their history. You can travel to other regions. In our country there are many places that are truly beautiful!

How to be happy?

2011-06-13T07:19:00.000+06:00

Somewhere in the big city, on crowded streets. As they all rush to somewhere with serious faces, each in some of their thoughts, each in its own world. All so different and unique. Surely, you'd be surprised if I tell you that they all rush to the same destination. His name is - happiness. That's right, all seven billion people every day, consciously or unconsciously, to pursue happiness ...

In a world of so many people, and all want to be happy! But in all different understandings of happiness! You will object. Of course, but the happiness of one thing, in all cases, it's just a feeling, flowing from the heart, flowing from the inside out in all directions around the world. And for the sake of the feelings of people work every day, meet, socialize, entertain, sell, buy, learn, give birth and killed. These different understanding of the same feelings - feelings of happiness.

But the most surprising thing in all this is not even the fact that the understanding of happiness are so different, but the fact that people are trying to achieve something internal external means. That is the illusion of successful uses advertising, sales managers and specialists in public relations. The illusion that the internal state can only be achieved by external means, you have to first get something, and then to be. Get a new house, new car, new washing machine, and then be happy. But in fact, all the way around: first you need to be, and then getting something to happen naturally, and the easiest way.

But let us all in good time. I do not like these long philosophical thinking, so that immediately begin to practice:

1. Every morning repeat, "I wish you all happiness!" Or "Be happy!" (Can be at the same time people close and not-so). Or you can experiment and change this affirmation on longer. For example, to this: "I wish you all happiness, wealth and wisdom." Or to borrow another, the Buddhists: "May all beings in all worlds be happy!" All this does not matter, as long as it was "tuning" to return.

One of the laws states that a happy life: what you give is what you get. And to be precise - on that internally configured, and you get to the outside world. Customize your subconscious mind to return - one of the main goals of many practices: prayer, worship, offering, worship, sacrifice, etc. When we have something to give, in the subconscious as if there is a program "Oh, so we have this many!" - And unconsciously, we begin to act that way, that this we have become even greater. This is called luck.

If our subconscious is configured to use, that is, it is deeply rooted fear that "I do not have enough", instead of faith and love, we unconsciously and behave accordingly. What is popularly called bad luck, but people with particularly strong consumer programs are called losers . That is exactly the losers will not be able to practice this method, and even if they try - they have there internal resistance. Because consciousness is an inveterate egotist in principle rejects the idea of return. In such a mind as soon as there is even a hint of the render, rather than consumption, immediately activated unit in the form of inner fear: "And I will not be enough," And it is not effective, "" And I'm sitting here, garbage suffer if you have so many important things are not done. " Such a person even if you begin this practice, then quickly forget it. Well, God is with him, and we'll move on ...

2. Get rid of the illusion that happiness you need something outside (no matter what it is: money, fame, recognition). First be happy, and only after that you can get everything naturally and effortlessly. All this, however, does not mean you should give up on external developments, no. Just here it is important the right attitude, in Eastern philosophy called "detachment." Go to external goals, being willing to accept both success and failure, realizing that happiness is always within the heart, independent and free from the vicissitudes of fate.

3. Relaxed - a very important point, in fact, be relaxed and it means to be happy. To do this, every night before bedtime go to bed, close your eyes and observe the sensations in the body. Relax your muscles, starting at the bottom (foot, shin, knees, thighs, stomach and so on until the top of your head, pay attention to the facial muscles, especially the eyes, the chewing muscles and the neck and wrist and stomach - if you can relax them, the exercise will ).

When you feel completely relaxed, try to provide a bright and pleasant light that pours upon you from above and how would washes all the dirt that is inside, as she escapes and flows downward. Do not think, do not analyze, just feel all this is a very powerful exercise. During all of this can be repeated: "I wish you all happiness," it will reinforce the effect.

So we summarize:

1. Disposition to return. Practice for this: to wish everyone happiness.

2. Strengthening of the knowledge that happiness is within. Practice for this: imagine that you have suffered a complete fiasco (you can imagine that something that you most afraid of), and mentally say to yourself "For the sake of divine love (supreme harmony, the passage of karmic lessons, spiritual development, etc., necessary to emphasize ) I am ready to accept and fully accept this misfortune as God's mercy.

3. Relaxation. Practice for this: relaxation meditation .

Practice this every day for at least one month, and only then is your opinion about these practices can be called objective, and that makes sense. I myself checked it all on myself, which is what everyone would like, try and the result will amaze you!

Why suffering?

2011-06-13T07:11:00.003+06:00

Once a woman whose child died, came to the Buddha and complained to him, he replied that he would help her, but first she must bring him mustard seeds from a home where nobody dies. The woman went around the city and returned with nothing - well, there was no there not a single house where no one would have died.

The same can be said about the suffering - bring the mustard seeds from a man who had never suffered. Impossible? Yes. For in suffering is a very important function, and while we did not realize until the end - we can not get rid of their suffering.

What is pain? For example, the physical. Thousands of nerve impulses, hurrying on neural circuits to specific centers in the brain. What then is the psychological pain? Psychic? Specific states of consciousness - you can call it that. But why are we from time to time have to stay in them? Who or what compels us to do that? We did not choose them consciously. Then what? Why? Why ...?

Any pain - is an essential attribute of the ego . Let's immediately identify with this term. Ego - it is awareness of oneself as a separate unit from the outside world - body, mind and emotions. But do the mental experiment: Imagine that you cut off the hand that hand - it's still you? A leg - it will still be you? Well, let's try with other body parts - of course, if you remove the heart, you will die if it will mean that you - is the heart. Maybe you - the brain? Alas, modern scholars have already done the similar experiments in this direction, but could not find the location of human brain.

It turns out that the body we are not, though stubbornly continue to be confused with the body, from what we suffer. We consider ourselves the body, so this here is a sac of skin and bones and guts inside, and since the consciousness of tightly focused on his feelings, we feel - it. But let's that leave this mortal coil mechanism and continue our experiment: what about the mind? That is the very stream of thought that does not stop for a moment (except that in deep sleep). Can you stop it even for a few seconds? How long can you concentrate on one thing so that there were no other thoughts? Try it. If you have done everything correctly, the result will stun you - you can not control your own thoughts! You can not stop them! Nevertheless, you still piously believe in what you are - think! Are you sure that it is you think?

But we are somewhat deviated from the topic of the article. How long can you tolerate pain ? What is the intensity of pain you can endure? Both physical and psychological. Imagine some, this will be your level of spiritual development. Yes, an indicator of spiritual development is how a person can tolerate the pain. For the pain - the essence of ego, pride, illusion, because of you, beautiful, eternal and blissful, confuse yourself with that bag of bones and a continuous flow of mental delusion.

That's why many ascetics, monk, monks and devotees sacrificed flesh and doing other penance, penance and tapas. That is why the uninitiated, many spiritual practices seem to be self-torture. After all, a spiritual practice - is, in essence, the infliction of pain to his ego and informed her residence. No, the devotees are not masochists, although there are also such. But now we're talking about others - those who are trying to understand yourself is true.

Think about it! Conscious living pain makes us stronger and closer to the truth! Pain - an illusion, and consciousness resolves it. Unconscious as accommodation pain leads to aspiration of the past or future. Fears, desires, resentment , sadness, depression and other pathological conditions - it is nothing like an unconscious flight from the heartache to an even greater pain. That's what amazing of all - unconsciously seeking the pain people go to more suffering. Offended remember the resentment, cherish them, and provoke others to new ones. Hate, anxiety, envy, hunger, jealous ... Everything is so frantic rush to your ad with the new residence of the same adverse conditions. Forgetting paradise here and now and fleeing into the future or the past, these unfortunates forced surroundings cause them pain and a new treasure it.

Full circle: the more unconscious people live their pain, the greater the hell are immersed. The essence of spiritual practice in learning how to live a pain consciously, without losing the love, faith, gratitude and mindfulness while causing us pain.

Suffering, failure , illness and other misfortunes - not evil, it's just a signal of violation of the law and what is - God forbid us reason to know. But for this we have to acquire the necessary grain of mind to take responsibility and recognize that all our suffering - not the fault of the environment, and the result of our past actions, thoughts and states of consciousness.

Birthday - a sad holiday ...

2011-06-06T13:02:00.000+06:00

Birthday, no matter what value we gave him no in words - a holiday special. Involuntarily to this day, we estimate: place a - in a career, friendship, love ... And if the answer when summing up the negative? As a child, usually a birthday - one of your most favorite holidays . You call friends, you give gifts , you spend time in the games. And the ball is usually run by adults, who certainly will not give malyshne bored.
Twelve years with the presence of adults on the festival begins to strain, and they tactfully leave for a few hours to visit or to the theater, taking with thee a promise that you will not be too much rage, and then restore order. Further, the scenario may unfold in different ways, but the day of birth - is still a favorite holiday when you can fully disengage and not think about the past and the future.

Personally, I first became a sad day when sixteen. I remember I invited a few girlfriends, but some had other plans, while others simply did not come ... In the end, at the table together some relatives. It seemed to me that they feel uncomfortable, because at a birthday party there is none of my peers. Semnadtsatiletie I did not celebrate at all - by the time and girlfriends I do not have, and with the boys, I stopped seeing after the fourth grade - for some reason to be friends with boys, we then considered indecent, and these girls were ridiculed.
But on the eighteenth birthday to my guests arrived just two new friends from the institute. That it was a celebration!
However, during the study was somehow not up to the day of birth. The more so because at that time always had to start the summer session. But, by tradition, and my fellow students are always congratulating each other and gave a modest gift.
After graduation, I did not celebrate their birthdays to twenty-five years. And then walked in the Western tradition : one is not specifically invited, but who was himself with gifts and greetings, seated at the table. Typically, these recruited five or six people ... After 30 years we have sometimes collected by a barbecue. Sometimes we had to celebrate several times with different people ...
But, no matter how I celebrated her birthday, every time I cover the sadness and disappointment. Because it was not like that and not the way I wanted. Like all attributes are present - and calls, and letters of congratulations, and guests, and gifts, but still something was missing ... Everything is too superficial and mundane ... None of something real, deep and be ... or not can?
After twenty years is not so happy about the Coming Day of birth, and you think: Now, you've become a year older, but what has made? And mentally enumerates its accomplishments and failures. What more? And it is not always the answer satisfies.
In addition, a birthday, like a litmus test reveals your relationship with others. Of the thirty people who know exactly what you have today, "a day of jam, only to congratulate the ten. And you wonder why some people wish you both for "ICQ", in sotsseti over the phone, while others are silent, as guerrillas, despite the fact that you have repeatedly mentioned that when you "dnyuha, numerous Internet-reminder ... happen and surprises - both positive and negative. It happens suddenly congratulate the one from whom, and not waiting for congratulations, but one who by all logic of things should be congratulated, ignoring ... "And you, insulted, hurriedly looking for any justification - forgot I could not, left, got sick ... although in my heart just know that simply did not want. Do not bother to, that's all. When something is "nepozdravlenie" with the next birthday would be the last straw in a relationship with a former friend of the institute: Every year I congratulated her, and she did the last few years - no. She has been in my life, and I was in it - apparently was not ... And I'm gone, no longer to get in touch, and she has since ten years, never called ...
Gifts - a separate issue. It's like a lottery: if you are lucky, if not ... Sometimes donors miraculously guess and present is what warms the soul. And sometimes things are presented with a completely unnecessary and uninteresting. Not because it is formally "otdarivayutsya, but just lay down card, because the gift is selected more often than not in accordance with the wishes of the recipient, and in accordance with their own ideas about how the last happy. Book also presents itself in advance, as they say, now it is accepted, you somehow have not yet learned how to ...

Myths and truth about women East

2011-06-05T13:06:00.001+06:00

The Information Age has provided people with access to a huge number of very diverse information. But he can not force the main task - to break prevailing in the minds of stereotypes. We think a very particular way and can not even imagine that someone on the ground may think otherwise. Moreover, we are trying to prove to these people (with its bell tower), that they live very poorly, and only us live well. So today we debunks myths about Eastern women (for example the Arab Republic of Egypt).

Myth. Soviet authorities withdrew the veil of oriental women, and thus made them free, allowing to study and work

True. In fact, boys and girls in Egypt have equal access to education. Not only to basic schooling, but also the university. After graduation, many women work and leave work when married (many, but not all). However, not because husbands do not allow them to work. In the system of the eastern property career is not ranked first both in the West and even in Russia. This is not a great value in itself, although many women and work, and even modify until retirement. The question is whether a woman can, without prejudice to himself and his family to combine home and work. Of course, for example, Russian women, we see that in principle it is possible. But at what cost? At the cost of kindergarten, where children are constantly sick, and education depend on a professional level educators and that they love children. Needless to say, that "teachers of God" - is a rarity. Women sacrifice sleep, after a day of trying to convert more and all the housework. The woman has almost no time for themselves. A guilt complex that mother gives little time for children? ..

Omit instances where the woman works for the work he loves for the sake of self-realization. These have never quit my job. But if her husband is completely contained his wife, except it would be in the cold for 8 hours pushing a bus conductor working? Why would the controller, trying to fine the two-meter boors? Or 12 hours would be injected at the factory? Or would sit at the cashier at the store, where a huge, including financial responsibility, plus the stress? And who would be a "volunteer" to work in VES? Yes, at least half of women (and something tells me that a lot more) would have thrown his monotonous, uninteresting, full of stressful work, if they had such an opportunity. If they knew that their husbands to feed the family and children and will not reproach "sitting" at home.

Myth. Oriental women would never wear closed clothes (ie, covering not only the body but the arms, legs, neck), a scarf and niqab, and swim in Burkina, if they were given freedom of choice

True. Our countrymen's hard to imagine that someone on another continent is not eager to undress, as is customary with us. The West and in Russia because what? If you do not razdeneshsya, nobody will pay attention to you, do not stand out, does not carry the look and the more home. Women have long had pressures of society, calls for the outspoken dress. Moreover, it is noticed even by Western feminists , who rightly see this as pressure on women. Want to win a man - pulled her skirt shorter, stockings (to gum was visible), chest deep, make-up brighter.

Hard to believe that we women are trying to catch a man just such primitive ways, appealing to basic instincts. But our task is to seduce and to lay a male. Our goal - to find in this life of its human companion, a man who will have not only want, but also love and understand. Then why these premature undressing?

Eastern women do not believe that men's attention can be attracted only in this way - take off more clothes. And with them we can not agree. Firstly, you can look attractive, and not bare. Arab fashion is quite diverse. It is and tunics, and dresses and short dresses, worn with trousers. Secondly, the shawl can also be an ornament, if it is picked up and tied, respectively (scores of ways). True, this is a hijab is not important. Shawl - it is one of the symbols of faith. This is similar to how Christians have the cross. Therefore, the true believers are not Muslim have complexes about wearing the headscarf. It is their expression of deep faith in God.

As for niqab (veil), women after marriage (not all, such a minority, but nonetheless) do want to get rid of the annoying male attention (why is it them? They've already married) and not be subject to abuse and unwanted attention. The best way to do it - to wear the niqab. And it's really a conscious decision. And the decision, worthy of respect. It protects a woman from possible temptations that inevitably exist in life, eliminates the likelihood of betrayal. This kind of measure to strengthen the family. What is wrong? ..

And, of course, a few words about burkini - closed swimsuit for eastern women. By the way, wear it, not all. Many simply put neoblegayuschuyu T-shirt and shorts below the knee. In this and swim. Do you think it is better to show on the beach cellulite and wrinkles on the abdomen and thighs, so her husband could immediately visually compare their 35-45-year-old wife gave birth to two children, and 20-year-old beauty with perfect body and skin? Is not it humiliating for 95% of women with disabilities compared to the figure of 5% owners of a beautiful model phone? And then we're talking about the corruption of society and changed every now and destroying marriages. The fact that men leave their wives, the same age and marry young ...

Myth. Life eastern woman - not a life and existence

True. Of course, every woman has their own idea about life. But would you call this living conditions in which should exist and seek their love Russian woman? Is this life, where women are forced to trick to lure men into marriage, because sex he has, but he does not want to marry? Or, you encourage the desire to withdraw from the family of a married man, having achieved that, he abandoned his wife and children, just because "normal idle" no longer exists? You see, what books are on the so-called psychology of women become bestsellers? It is very often guide how to become a bitch, and seduce, repel and marry the man himself. Tell me, is this worthy of behavior for women - to organize the hunt for husbands and by all means try to drag them to the registry office? And then, sigh, more handsome one "married", "zahomutali. As if he - the horse!

But not every woman wants to become artificially bitch - angry, aggressive, assertive. In nature, most of the ladies just do not. A society presses that, say, another price of happiness is not achieved - if only to fight for the man hands and nails (or rather, nails).

Myth. It is believed that the Oriental woman - a slave, enslavement, and we quite often myself mistress

True. When a woman marries, she in any case cease to be mistress of herself, because now she has a family, a husband, whom she believed. Marriage - it's always a certain degree of loss of independence - one that was a woman to create a family. In the sense that it can not itself take decisions. For example, to put her husband before the fact and fly away on holiday in Greece. Go out and spend their wages on clothes and makeup, if the family council planned to buy a new refrigerator. As a minimum, the husband will not understand. But most likely, it was concluded that with him no one would believe and think - why would he a wife? And then it does not matter, a Muslim man or not. Since then, as the two became a family, they take into account the opinions of each other and make decisions. There did not get to be mistress of herself.

Myth. Husband for the Eastern women - not loved and not one, but the owner and "keeper"

True. Women in the East, too, are choosing mates for love. Issue a married woman without her consent are not allowed - just not married, Mullah such a pair. As for content, on this most can only dream of - that the man considered it his duty to fully support his family and wife. Modern Western and Russian men do not have such a powerful incentive, as the Koran , which requires the husband to maintain his wife. Therefore, try our fellow citizens less. Not everyone, of course. But, as we know, in our latitudes, with every year an increasing tendency to marry for the calculation, at a decent earning woman and move to an already purchased bride apartment. Men are no longer embarrassed to live at the expense of women. They thrive while their beloved injected into 2-3 work and still pulls the burden of household chores.

From a woman's life - And men

2011-06-04T20:17:00.003+06:00

A pretty woman can not be a fool for men, it always has one main mind, which men call from a woman - mind to be pretty." Anna Steel

... It was a little over 20. And we have another Mitka unanimously believed that the world belongs only to beautiful women. Two dunce worked middle managers in some firm, dreamed that one day will become steeper our boss, get rich and then ... Pretty, who can escape, the Great Male announce the hunt! We are looking for pictures of cuties on the Internet, rubbed up holes known magazines, audacious clatter passing the baby. " Belles enough, but they were all strangers and inaccessible, with covers and monitor. We are painfully like his. To close, to hone her "art" samtsovskih jokes and try to discern lace lingerie under the blouse. And the gods heard. ... She came to the interview in the mini, tank top and heels. Blond. Blue-eyed. Jess! If only it took the position the Secretary, if only she did not blurt out stupid move - the boss has remained indifferent to the beauties, he Give professional. The young lady did not podkachala, coined from the teeth, Mitiok jubilant ...

Our happiness lasted exactly two weeks: the young lady to "ask". People really do not want to work, be responsible for mail and office equipment. She indignantly said: max - coffee boss and aleknut "on the phone ... I was afraid that Mitka not survive impact.

So, with the aphorism Anna Steel I disagree.

"Yielding to the woman thinks that makes the whole world, and the man thinks he's got a toy, a woman imagines that she gave an eternity, and the man - that he received a moment of pleasure." Carmen Silva

And here I do not argue. Case ugly, thank God, the protagonist is not me.

Andryukha long sought the favor of longtime sweetheart, to a certain point - to no avail. Andryukha not give up, in the course was "heavy artillery" - flowers, gifts , frequent phone calls and threats of suicide motivated by love. The siege lasted almost a year. Another spat would not Andryukha ...

Queen surrendered to the mercy, has agreed on a date. Decided, as a reward for his labors to reward Andryukha amorous gifts ... melted in his arms, and called his knight, and kept asking: "How come you waited so poor? Perhaps the whole world is now ready for my feet? "Andryukha portrayed blissful Silences of happiness ...

He did not call her anymore. Never. Played - and will.

Do not ask how I know all the details. Only give advice ladies: Do not overestimate your "certain" assets.

And with said Sylvia - one hundred percent agree.

A woman always three age groups: a seemingly valid and attributed it yourself. A Carr

... One day, God sent us a wonderful neighbors: the couple, it is - light of science, she - his wife (and this says a lot). While husband build upon a field of discovery and enlightenment, supruzhnitsa odurevala from idleness. Her only occupation was to inform neighbors that they have a unique opportunity to talk with the wife of genius, muse ... We gritted his teeth, but tolerated. However, a caveat was impossible to ignore: a lady desperate to paint and active young. In the morning on it - red lips and a colossal bust, for dinner - cushioning tights and mass jewelry . In short, "what we come!" I thought it 45-47 years. If "it's time to bloom, it is not the earliest.

... This guest drank tea in the kitchen with my mother, to my ear could be heard just music: "When I was 55 years old, I forbade myself to think about age. Talking to himself and others that I forever 37. Once met with a neighbor, she lyubopytnichaet: "Natalya, and how much you still years?" And I thought and thought: "And you know, I forgot. Receive a pension, and the rest does not matter, "neighbor gasped:" Natalia, you lucky woman! "

Visitor had gone, I'm stunned, asked:

- Mom, so how old is she? Is she in the insanity?

And I heard a wistful:

- It does not matter, son. She's really happy woman ... And this.

For the aphorism would shake the author's hand.

Smart woman - one in which society can hold itself as anything silly. Paul Valery

... I was lying on the couch, watching a concert from idleness, where mere mortals could present to the public (mostly for kicks) their talents and gifts. On the stage the next competitor, is clearly not a Nobel Prize winner in all areas, tortured me and the audience singing. A lady sat on the jury. Once upon a time it was called a jazz singer, then - a fan of kefir diet . In general, a titled lady. Thinner evil face in a cloud of curls napergidrolennyh contorted grimace of pain ... Of course, the admirer of kefir made a damning verdict lover of songs of the black crow. And the "singer" to his misfortune has decided to answer something in excuse. And then there was a decibel level that I was hoisted on the couch:

- First, remove the hand from his pocket when talking to a lady! If there were more intelligent, would know rules of etiquette, you would not dress never sang this song! ..

Angry retort lasted several minutes. Artist wanted to break up into atoms, the hall stood, I pulled over to the couch by the sound wave.

... A clever woman will probably accurate conclusions about their counterparts. And not say anything, do not give guidance on the choice of the tie and laces. She is a self-explanatory. And with it - what to take? ..

The author of the aphorism - handsome.

Men know how to hate, and women - just feel disgusted. The latter is much worse. Henri Regnault

I take on a slippery slope, trying to speculate on this issue. Therefore respectfully ask just take it as opinion.

I do not like the rich uncle's children taken away from ex-wives. I hate the actor, otkrovennichaya in an interview with the yellow edition, with a demonstrative bitterly said that his ex-wife (all three) wanted from him only the money, diamonds, did not like to really have been bad hostess, and in addition had a habit of noisily scratch. Yes, the men - not angels . But the above-mentioned - this is a manifestation of hatred. For a woman who once (and maybe more than once) it into something rude. Hatred is horrible, but not as disgusting.

I fell into the hands of a magazine, where hitherto no one known the young lady with tragedy and tears even in the printed line telling about her difficult life with a famous writer. Writer - the amateur look and feel creative. Certainly be among them some good: it is difficult to live nine years with "a tyrant and a torturer."

Women - men's eyes

2011-04-13T13:51:00.000+06:00

They say that there are no ugly women, but there are lazy. I will not go to rephrase and say that there are no ugly women, but men are inconsiderate and bad photos. This thought came to my mind when I considered the next series of portraits.When you look at photos taken by photographer, the question arises - what is a woman's beauty in general. Portraits (and they can not be called just photos) are unique. Master photo portrait skillfully conveys the individuality of each woman, expressive eyes, unique charm. Perhaps this skill is male and has a view of feminine beauty? In the end, the beauty - it's pretty subjective, and the representation of each history on their own. But there is something that makes not just pay attention, but also look after even a strange woman. I decided to ask men to one simple question: - "What draws your eyes to the woman that it makes to pay attention to it?" That's what they said:

Kakoli, 30 years - a figure, of course, the proportions! To long legs, breasts and everything else on the site.

Mosaddaque, 37 years old - in looks, of course, attracts attention, but often this is not the main thing. It is difficult to explain, here comes a woman, nothing special about it, if you look, and look attracts. Can walk or aura of some sort?

Suriya, 47 years old - a woman is important personality. Then to his feet not be distracted. That is, confidence, ability to look, gait, style. What it really - it's on the move can not tell, but the stylish woman's look followed exactly.

Bk howr, 1951 - the main eye view, so that it was something that caught on.

Monu, 46 years old - and who knows what in them so attractive? Here depends on the mood. But when a woman laughs, fun - it always attracts.

Michael, 28 years - my hair like that long, mandatory and the wind blew - it is beautiful, and presents in their hands, very sexy.

Question can be infinite, the answers will be different or the same, but the fact remains - women are good, without exception, if you look at them loving, concerned eyes.

You must have met the pair in which a handsome man with adoring looks at the seemingly insignificant-looking woman. Probably, love your vision? Like the Masters, from the artist. Not without reason, female portraits from ancient times till nowadays do not cease to captivate the views and get to peer in an attempt to discover the secret charm.

But hardly anyone objects to that favorite and a woman in love is always good, regardless of the length of the legs or eye color, age, or facial features. How to easily make a woman happy - love her, and she will always be beautiful!

What phrase will help tune in to positive?

2011-04-05T13:01:00.000+06:00

Our life there are moments when it is not something that the hands go down, and drops even what kind, and so is omitted. We are frustrated, upset their friends and relatives, and could not understand how to proceed.

It is at such moments around trying to stuff us great beautiful phrases, which seem to serve no useful purpose. Great - they are something to our troubles to! They have been told and forgotten, and we now that, looking to repeat da?

No, nobody should. And in many ways you can relate to the thoughts and aphorisms of famous (and not) of people past and present. Just the fact remains: a positive assertion of better help to cope with many adversities, to look at the problem from a new, unexpected, to think that we are not alone fell back to where, there seems no way out. Well, if there is no escape, to go into the "input"!

Surely each of us do not often heard old phrase "Time heals wounds", owned by Augustine of Hippo. We sighed heavily and nodded skeptically. But it's true! Time is a great healer, which helps to dampen resentment, anger, pain, resentment, jealousy and many other diseases peculiar to man. Of course, here plays the role of yet another factor: the problems that seemed to us the universal in school, the institutes age, we remember with a slight chuckle. It's called growing up. But then it occurs only over time.

Persecuted if you feel that you all are discussing? That the couple sitting in front of the bus and actively whispering and laughing, just laughing at you and the seller in a store full of people, it criticizes your appearance? Yes, the Earth revolves around each of us "- said Josef skeptical Bulatovic.

But, in fact, sellers are not up to us, and a pair so well with each other, that others are not even notice it. Do not pay attention and do not make a tragedy, if you thought that you saw something wrong "look. A person could just think about ... think about that, it just looked "wrong."

If you defend from obsessive thoughts about what someone can do something "not" think you can not, then arm yourself with the words of Coco Chanel: "I do not care what you think of me. I do not think about you at all. " Remember it when getting ready to take responsibility, but an extraordinary case, which may not figure around when there is a situation of "want, but I can not ..." or "What do think of others?". This is your life and you decide how original and interesting to live it .

Preferably, of course, so that in the future become, as in the words of Mark Twain: "Wrinkles - it's just an indication of the place where it is often a smile." And while you can support this phrase my mother or grandmother, dissatisfied examined age-related changes in the mirror.

Failed dopsessiyu? We have to quit ? Can support Bill Gates: "At any time, care, and making his case, and to return to Harvard's never too late." In this case, I like that word "business" and "Harvard" can mean quite different things and places. Think, have you lost much? Do not worry, not to lose even more. If one door closes, it immediately opens several other!

Obedient child - quiet today and setbacks tomorrow?

2011-04-04T13:02:00.003+06:00

"Can you please tell how to make an obedient child?" - One of the most common questions asked by parents of child psychologist. Obedient child (in the understanding of parents) - performs no talk, any dissatisfaction with their claim request. Is it really a dream of most adults? If so, then you can consider the following arguments.

1. Child - a personality!

Many parents of their personality and identity of the child is perceived as a single: "We went to school, we did the lessons we have prepared a research paper." This is fundamentally wrong. Child - the person with their views, thoughts, opinions, and character.

Parents are asked to require, say - the child naturally reacts to this by expressing their feelings, their position (and the ability to express a child is socially acceptable way - is another question).

If the child will be unconditionally comply with the requirements of parents - unfortunately, the person in it you have repressed.

2. Take this for what it is!

Raise a child and did not break his character - the challenges of parenting. Not altered under, although very few parents want to see your miniature. And to take the child for who he is. These parents give their children feel unconditional and sincerity of his love.

Do kids love you for something? None. They love you just because you - the parents . What we would like to themselves: respect, attention, love, understanding, caring - this is necessary and the child, just a greater extent.

3. Understand each other!

If a child is something does not want to listen to your opinion - maybe it's not in his obstinacy. Think you have enough to clear it, you argued his claim (on whether the language), whether the number of times repeated (for all people of different perceptual speed information, the different focus of attention)?

I remember a case when one dad walking along the embankment with a three-son. Suddenly, the river floated a beautiful boat. "What a boat! Look what the flags on it! How fast he swims! Sonny, how do you that? ". "I do not see any boats!" Hearing such a reply the son, the father began to yell at him, accused of negligence, disobedience. A boy with good intentions, could not see the boat - because of his small stature and high curb the waterfront.

4. Power of persuasion - the best power in education!

Violence used by parents of their impotence, in most cases - mental. Encourage your child to be obedient under threat of force - the most recent case. Violence begets only violence . These children apparently docile harbor anger and hatred inside. For the time being. Then he throws out all the accumulated negativity on others.

Model violent upbringing quickly absorbed the child and accompany him throughout his life. "Grow up - then we'll see who gets" - threatened 12-year-old boy to his father, who was forced by beatings son to go to the sports section.

5. The child has their own needs and desires! And they can differ from the desires of parents

If the child gets used to carry out without hesitation any demands of parents, it can no longer think and perform all the requirements of others. What it will be people and demands - is unknown. To ensure that your child will not be obedient puppet of the stronger personalities, is just his ability to assert their desires, their needs, the ability to say no .

Teach a child to this - much more complicated than using parental authority, to suppress his identity and make do for your understanding. You can not always be with child and prompt. We must not even aspire to it. Do you own life, he has - his own. The role of parents - to help your child become a person, to be his "rescue air bag", but do not live the life of the child.

There is a perception that parents are their child is not bad advice. But this does not mean that you necessarily need that the child did everything exactly as you told him. First, because to err is human - is there any insurance to the correctness of your decision? Secondly, a person learns from his mistakes - like a child develop and grow, not stuffing yourself bud?

So, take care of their children and help them grow in the personal sense, teach them to defend their opinion , be able to negotiate and find compromises. There are situations where you need strong adult "no" (especially in matters of health and safety). It must be substantiated and no change.

What tips crossed lovers require careful application?

2011-04-03T13:01:00.000+06:00

When a person suffers from unrequited love , he plunges into the depths of their experiences, in no way could easily drown. And like every drowning, he is seeking at least a straw, for which you can grab to swim. Often, as a "craft" are the tips, including those drawn from popular literature - it's something which, as booklets on the psychology of love are everywhere - more than enough.

Addressing them, remember that this is advice designed all at once, ie, without taking into account the specific situation. They are for everyone, not to you personally because you - not a template, no blueprint to anyone and everyone, and individuality, in which there is a unique feeling, unique emotions, unique experiences and unique circumstances. So do not let "the winds" as soon as read the opinions of the author of the book.

For example, a few parting words, which should be viewed with caution.

1. "Think of your feelings, which had before fallen in love, and again Live through them."

Yeah, remember, and it turned out that all the aspirations of the soul were sent to search for love, the desire to meet with her. Such memories will inevitably lead to feelings associated with the fact that the result was again cast into the abyss of misery.

Therefore, if and to remember that something good out of time "before ..." not to fall into the trap of returning to their suffering. It is important that these pleasant feelings were in no way associated with past love relationships, as well as in general with relations with the opposite sex (even family).

2. "Imagine how you saw someone great or famous, and called to participate (in the filming, in a serious scientific project, in an exciting expedition into the lucrative business, etc.). Do not be afraid to dream, draw a vivid imagination and detail, as will future developments, which it will be a success .... "

Such has been described in the "White Nights" by F. Dostoyevsky: fantasy - one, and there is going smoothly so sweet, and life - is quite another, and love the hero in reality instead of finding happiness helps to run away with another lover ... So, do not fantasize?

Yes please, as they want. Imagine what is good and no subject sighs. What is difficult? This is normal. Do you imagine that at a party he / she with another / others, and you unconcerned. Too easy. Come on. Represent a party in the details: the interior, the participants and their equipment (and your not necessarily stunning, the closer to the real wardrobe, the better), etc.

It's easier, yes? But it's not all. Here is a meeting with a mental object, which together with a happy opponent / rival. If a pounding heart, do not pinch him, just watch it pass by itself, without volitional effort, as if floats by.

"Fantasy" technique a lot. But there are others. For example, the "real detachment. Do not worry, it does not provide any care to the monastery, no writing in the hermit or refusal to participate in elections. Everything is much simpler and more concrete. You walk down the street with the feeling that watching everything on her part.

Riding cars - but separate from you: you hear their sound and see the motion, but from the side. Chirping sparrows, are food and flower tents are passers-by - no feelings and emotions. Among the passers-by - The object of desire, and also only watch passively.

3. "Try to highlight in man only by his shortcomings, rose to the position of an outsider, then the eyes of the same foreign rds a positive picture and wondered how such a worthy one, as you could choose so unworthy!".

Too familiar with the old times. Hercules , for example, had an affair with the maid zmeenogoy maliciously, and Prince Ivan married a frog. So that the negative image does not necessarily hinder you from the desired object, but only give the test the senses. As a result, it may happen that "all luck" would love (or have).

Possible, of course, is another option, that is precisely the result that directly offered advice. And if you are not insured by another trap: from love to hate one step. " But, as the wise man by the name of Gibran Khalil Gibran, "after all and hatred - only hunger of love." Hunt you starve? In addition, you may not know their subject enough to be aware of its shortcomings, and to attribute them to him mean to denigrate any innocent person.